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I know that when teenagers are growing up, they can sometimes be unsure about their sexuality, I am 16 and often find men attractive, be it clothed or naked. I hate feeling like this, but if I ever masturbate thinking about other males or looking at other males on the Internet I always feel guilty afterwards. I don't think I am gay, because I find women extremely attractive and like them more than other guys.

To put it bluntly, if you are gay then is it possible for you to masturbate and ejaculate from watching straight porn and from watching lesbian porn? I am extremely paranoid at most things, so immediately think that I must be gay but if I find women sexually attractive then does this mean I could be bi-sexual or I just need to wait till I am older because I am still 16 and like it's been said many teenagers question their sexuality at some point.

+rep to anyone who puts my mind at ease. :smile:

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

I know that when teenagers are growing up, they can sometimes be unsure about their sexuality, I am 16 and often find men attractive, be it clothed or naked. I hate feeling like this, but if I ever masturbate thinking about other males or looking at other males on the Internet I always feel guilty afterwards. I don't think I am gay, because I find women extremely attractive and like them more than other guys.

To put it bluntly, if you are gay then is it possible for you to masturbate and ejaculate from watching straight porn and from watching lesbian porn? I am extremely paranoid at most things, so immediately think that I must be gay but if I find women sexually attractive then does this mean I could be bi-sexual or I just need to wait till I am older because I am still 16 and like it's been said many teenagers question their sexuality at some point.

+rep to anyone who puts my mind at ease. :smile:

It is true that many people question their sexuality. However, it's also true that a lot of these people know, subconsciously, but just aren't ready to accept it. I think you know the answer to this. I'd say you were bisexual with a preference towards women - it happens. In fact most bisexuals I know have a preference one way or the other - towards their own sex or towards the opposite sex. Honestly, it doesn't matter what you call yourself if you're happy. :smile:

As long as you get a girlfriend (or boyfriend) and know you're not going to be in any danger of cheating on her (him) with another girl or boy, you're fine. :smile:

Don't feel guilty - hell, you wouldn't feel guilty for fancying a girl, would you? :p:

To answer your question, I'm gay (and have known since I was 11), and I don't find women sexually attractive (and never have).

Reply 2

Bubblebee

15

Why do you need to put yourself in a box like that? I've only ever been with guys and that is who I find attractive yet I never will rule out women, I won't know I'm never gonna fall in love with one... don't panic, it's only YOUR happiness which is important. As generalebriety said, as long as you find your perfect 'partner' and are happy and faithful, what is the problem?

Sexuality is overrated! :smile:

Reply 3

*titanium*

12

Well personaly the only man i find attractive is myself :p:

Reply 4

Redefined

13

That's a tough question to answer, as you would be the best one to know whether you're gay or not. There is a theory that many guys have a "penis curiosity" and can be sexually aroused when looking at another males genitals. But this doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. Many people get excited at sexuality itself, which is male/female independent. That is, some "get off" on sex itself, not necessarily by whom they're watching or thinking about.

Hope that came out right and helps a bit :smile:

Reply 5

matt@internet

12

generalebriety

I'd say you were bisexual with a preference towards women - it happens. In fact most bisexuals I know have a preference one way or the other - towards their own sex or towards the opposite sex.

Yeah, I have a bi-sexual mate, and I think he is more inclined towards men than women.
OP, you sound bi-sexual to me.

Reply 6

Laika

1

Anonymous

I know that when teenagers are growing up, they can sometimes be unsure about their sexuality, I am 16 and often find men attractive, be it clothed or naked. I hate feeling like this, but if I ever masturbate thinking about other males or looking at other males on the Internet I always feel guilty afterwards. I don't think I am gay, because I find women extremely attractive and like them more than other guys.

To put it bluntly, if you are gay then is it possible for you to masturbate and ejaculate from watching straight porn and from watching lesbian porn? I am extremely paranoid at most things, so immediately think that I must be gay but if I find women sexually attractive then does this mean I could be bi-sexual or I just need to wait till I am older because I am still 16 and like it's been said many teenagers question their sexuality at some point.

+rep to anyone who puts my mind at ease. :smile:

Do you know any men in your day to day life that you would realistically have sex with if you had the chance?

Reply 7

huli

1

I used to feel like this when I was about 12 or 13 because I would sometimes think about women when I masturbated. I know now though that I wouldn't want to sleep with a woman, but that doesn't make it wrong that I still like
and watch women in porn.

You don't need to label yourself, just see where life and your feelings take you.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

Despite the fact that men can sometimes turn me on, I could never actually have sex with one.

Reply 9

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

Despite the fact that men can sometimes turn me on, I could never actually have sex with one.

So? Before you started considering women seriously (and probably before you've had a relationship or two with them) you probably wouldn't have sex with them. It's normal. Plus the added taboo of being gay in today's society doesn't help.

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

Id say quit watching and masturbating to porn for a start. Its a dead-end road and really distracts you from the real thing. Its also the source of your bi-curiosity.

I think I heard from somewhere that porn turns people gay, but it could be some urban myth...

Reply 11

Ronaldo VII

2

Anonymous

Id say quit watching and masturbating to porn for a start. Its a dead-end road and really distracts you from the real thing. Its also the source of your bi-curiosity.

I think I heard from somewhere that porn turns people gay, but it could be some urban myth...

It turns you blind also :wink:

Reply 12

hjfghjv

Does it really matter? I know it's cliché, but I don't give myself any sort of 'label' and never would. I'm not really completely sure what I am and I'm quite comfortable with that. To be honest, I don't really think most people are 100% straight or gay anyway.

Reply 13

Ryan

10

I have never questioned my sexuality in all my 18 years (straight)

definitely gay

Given your nerve endings in your penis, I find it hard to believe that a man would not ejaculate purely due to what images they happen to be watching. Could be wrong, of course, as I'm a woman, but it is hard to believe.

If you find women sexually attractive too and don't want to be bi or gay, then just focus on the women. It's more likely that you're just going through the teenage phase really. I went through such a phase when I wondered if I was a lesbian because I was a naive 16-year-old who was very immature about friendships and got a tad obsessive with my friend, also a girl. (no I didn't stalk her!) And I kept finding her so precious and so beautiful - not once did I find her sexually attractive - however I did find her unusually beautiful - like beauty sent from heaven - and I craved her friendship and attention so much that I kept wondering if I fancied her.

Now I'm 19 and I'm definitely heterosexual given I've never had another one of those episodes, I now see her as a normal best friend and am no longer stalker-ishly scary about her friendship, and I've only ever found men sexually attractive :biggrin:

So yeh, you're probably just going through a phase. I don't agree with homosexuality myself, so I'd say focus on women since you do find them sexually attractive anyway, and eventually the other feelings will probably go away. Of course, it's your choice what you do :smile:

The feelings for the one gender would probably remain if you emphasised on it, if you get me. Like, if you let yourself focus on women, your feelings for men would probably fade, and vice versa, or maybe you just end up bi.

Reply 16

generalebriety

16

irisng

Given your nerve endings in your penis, I find it hard to believe that a man would not ejaculate purely due to what images they happen to be watching. Could be wrong, of course, as I'm a woman, but it is hard to believe.

You do need a certain amount of arousal to maintain an erection in the first place though... or to even be bothered masturbating. :confused:

irisng

The feelings for the one gender would probably remain if you emphasised on it, if you get me. Like, if you let yourself focus on women, your feelings for men would probably fade, and vice versa, or maybe you just end up bi.

Now you know I'm going to disagree with you here. :p:

Sometimes these feelings fade during or after puberty, but they don't fade simply because you choose not to focus on one particular group. In fact, psychologically, you would probably feel you were missing something if you did ignore one group for a long time and end up more attracted to them... temporarily, obviously.