girl help to understanding girls lol

anyway ill try and make it as clear as possible. at uni i dont really have a lot of friends that are girls, one of the reasons is cos im kinda shy anyway my major point is that ok well im kinda laid back, polite, erm, paitent etc. well if i talk to a girl i have a feeling the girl thinks im talking to her cos i like her and that annoys me cos after a while she starts ignoring me. ie if i see her somewhere. some of my friends say that i havent got the "skill to talk to girls" but who the hell is born with it. i dont talk to people cos i like all of them and wanna date them all. some say im too polite but the thing is i cant help it much, i think ive always been like that especially cos my parents brought me up like that. some people say i talk to them like an engineer will do when asking stuff. i dunno, please help. sometimes i just wanna leave cos either i have nothing to say, lol. or ....(cant think)

any tips, cos im being myself and it seems that i have to be someone who im not just to get to know new people(girls that is)

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

You sound like one of my friends when I talk to him over msn. You sound like you're jabbering away at nothing, in a way. So I'm guessing when you're talking to girls you're nervous? "Be yourself" doesn't mean "stand there and tremble and talk ****" - even if that is your personality. Try and be calmer about it. Act to girls as you would act towards guys.

And if you are doing that and they're still ignoring you, maybe you're just not pleasant company (or, of course, they're not).

Reply 2

pendragon

13

Where do you meet these girls and where do you talk to them?

Reply 3

samba

6

Why would you wanna be friends with a load of girls????

Reply 4

fallingwithstyle

samba

Why would you wanna be friends with a load of girls????

Because we are great....Duh! :wink:

Reply 5

samba

6

fallingwithstyle

Because we are great....Duh! :wink:

Thats not what they taught me in school !!! English girls are second only to the devil!

But I'll let you off as you're an Aussie :wink:

Reply 6

fallingwithstyle

samba

Thats not what they taught me in school !!! English girls are second only to the devil!

But I'll let you off as you're an Aussie :wink:

Well i'm a English girl now in Australia, does that count? :rolleyes:

Reply 7

Anthonyjm71

9

samba

Why would you wanna be friends with a load of girls????

what wrong with having lots of friends especially girls no harm being friends.

Reply 8

Pikeymikey22

I probably have more female friends than male ones. I know how to talk to girls.

It's exactly the same as talking to guys, just don't let slip any vulgar/sexist jokes or comments. Don't talk to girls as if you want them. Also, the opening line hasn't got to be perfect, so don't obsess about it. It more how you say it, not what you say. Just chill, and don't be too worried about whether the conversation will get you anywhere or not.

Reply 9

bedbug

14

I think it's generally more your body language when you're talking than what you're saying that makes girls feel like you're interested. No gazing longingly into their eyes, no being too touchy feely, just be genuine and be yourself. And yes, as generalebriety said, try not to be a nervous wreck - it's likely to make a girl think you're trying to chat her up and failing miserably.

Reply 10

rachelrainbow32

2

You have to stop thinking about girls as girls. And just think of them as people. Just talk to them as if you were talking to a guy except miss out all the typically 'guy' stuff.

Reply 11

Nonsmoking

12

rachelrainbow32

You have to stop thinking about girls as girls. And just think of them as people. Just talk to them as if you were talking to a guy except miss out all the typically 'guy' stuff.

Um.. leaving what? When I talk to my mates, guys or girls, I always get quite laddish! Having a chortle is part of being friends :smile:

Reply 12

bedbug

14

The laddish comments are what make guys so fun to be friends with, don't leave them out! You could be being too polite by not being a bloke - you're expected to come out with some boyish remarks. Personally I feel a lot more comfortable with a guy if he's willing to talk to me like he would another guy, rather than tiptoeing round the fact that I don't have a willy.

Reply 13

cutandpasteandtwisty

11

samba

Why would you wanna be friends with a load of girls????

Exactly. There's no point establishing friendships with people simply because they're girls. Instead, just be yourself, and make friends with people who you have something in common with. There's nothing wrong with guy-mates; in fact, you'll find that most men are friends mainly with other men.