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I feel older than i am

maybe this is a weird post but im 18, female and just cant easily find people my age that i can get on with.
i really dont want to sound arrogant (i hate arrogance) but just wondering if anyone else feels this way too? some of my girl friends act like they are 13 and i get so bored with them, they can be really bitchy and tend to just want to get drunk, dress as emo as possible and talk about bands.
sometimes i think i spend too much time with my parents and feel i can talk to older people much easier, im starting to think maybe im a 50 year old in a 18 year olds body. help... :redface:

Reply 1

Snowfall

10

Maybe you just don't have the right friends for your personality. If you're not really into dressing emo, talking about bands and getting drunk, perhaps you should look for people with more similar interests. Are you at uni? If you're are/going to be, you'll find people of a range of ages and range of interests. I'm sure you'll find someone more suited to your mental age!

Oh and I don't think that you're necessarily a 50 year old in a 18 year old's body, but just a few years more mature than your friends/peers.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

I feel like this. I am 21 and have been with my BF 4 years. I had quite a tough child hood and my mum and dad split up when i was 16. I don't really have many friends of my age, i can just never be bothered with other people or i don't feel as comfortable with anybody else other than the people who are already in my life. I don't know if it's because i am worried about being hurt because of whats happened in my past or not, but i am happy with who i have in my life that i don't feel the need for anybody else.

Reply 3

Sithius

16

Get new friends if you are unhappy with them.

Reply 4

KerriT

9

i'm 18 and I feel a lot older than I am, but then I've had to be independent and a care for someone else for a long time. My friends don't really understand some things and sometimes it can be very irritating but if you have good friends who share the same interests as you the maturity difference is less of a problem, it still is a problem but you can still have fun with them.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks for ur replies. i am going to uni this september..moving to london to do art but the art students i know are all so stereotyped and i just have this doomed feeling that i wont meet anyone that are like me!! i have a boyfriend that ive gone out with for 2 years and i feel like mayb that has stopped me socialising so much. still..shouldnt blame him.

Reply 6

R1chyP

Same here. Don't worry about it, grew out of some of them a long time ago, however some grew up too!

People may not like you for being ahead of your time, especially when you own your own business at 20, i.e me.

Can't wait for the mid life crisis tho haha.

Reply 7

Resultsdayforthewin

I'm 21 this coming saturday and I feel like I'm turning 40.

You will meet people at Uni who you would better suit socialising with and if not there's always Societies to join.

Reply 8

slk999

15

loads of people in my year i can't get on with because they act like hormone experiments aged 14. however, it's only till may i have to put up with them and then gap year and then university and i can't wait tbh, i believe there'll be far more people at uni i can get on with because of those 2 years extra maturity. but you're not unusual at all.

Reply 9

ladyportacabin

8

I feel like this sometimes too! I'm the eldest child, and when I was young my mum was ill quite a lot. So I learned responsibility very young. I also got into a long term relationship when I was 16 for 3 years so I kinda missed out a bit then! My boyfriend is in his early 30s and i'm more on his wavelength than most people my own age.

Reply 10

unfinished sympathy

15

Anonymous

maybe this is a weird post but im 18, female and just cant easily find people my age that i can get on with.
i really dont want to sound arrogant (i hate arrogance) but just wondering if anyone else feels this way too? some of my girl friends act like they are 13 and i get so bored with them, they can be really bitchy and tend to just want to get drunk, dress as emo as possible and talk about bands.
sometimes i think i spend too much time with my parents and feel i can talk to older people much easier, im starting to think maybe im a 50 year old in a 18 year olds body. help... :redface:

i totally understand! Youre at alone! I get bored with my friends too and heir immature ways. I get bored around people my own age as i find that older people are much funnier because they have loosened up with age. ALthough of course younger people are funny and fun to be around, i never enjoy myself when i go out with my friends- i dont know what to talk about etc.

Ive accepted it now, and sometimes it stinks but other times its fun- oh well :smile:

it also means youre more comfortable around a lot of people, for me this is an advantage, coss iused to get around teachers and stuff. but thats just me

Reply 11

pendragon

13

Yes. I feel much older than people my age in many respects, but I also have a childish side in relationships. I guess I am 45 mentally speaking - part 40 year old, part 5 year old. In any case I have no interest at all in clubs, pubs or drinking; and unless I am kissing a gorgeous girl I tend to get very bored at parties where people - some older than myself - are all drinking and having a great time.

Reply 12

Squelchy

I am a 10 year old in the body of a Greek god.

I feel older than i am

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