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How could i be so blind?

Yes, i'm back...the OP of "i must be a b****...and i feel so low..." ... the good news is that my bf has now come back from holiday...the bad news is that he has found someone else...hes broken a 4 and a half yr relationship with me now because he claims that he loves her...i was in shock...and today i read his emails...and i found out that he had been flirting with her a lot on the internet...and they were hinting at the fact that they wanted to be together...i'm so hurt...i dont want to act like a drama queen like i did in my other post but really...what now? i've begged him to come back to me but he refuses to...

Reply 1

Sithius

16

Are you the one who phoned his parents and the dad said piss off?

Reply 2

username39618

1

He sounds like a t*** for not telling you about how he felt earlier.

Reply 3

HeStoleMyCrayon

omg i cant believe it, i really didnt think he would have actually have found somenoe elsE! looks like you were right to be so concerned...im really sorry to hear that

crap on his doorstep

why beg him back? he cheated on u! next time he is on holiday will u nt think is he with some one else?

Reply 6

Helenia

20

Anonymous

Yes, i'm back...the OP of "i must be a b****...and i feel so low..." ... the good news is that my bf has now come back from holiday...the bad news is that he has found someone else...hes broken a 4 and a half yr relationship with me now because he claims that he loves her...i was in shock...and today i read his emails...and i found out that he had been flirting with her a lot on the internet...and they were hinting at the fact that they wanted to be together...i'm so hurt...i dont want to act like a drama queen like i did in my other post but really...what now? i've begged him to come back to me but he refuses to...

I'm really sorry to hear that. He handled it really badly, though perhaps you shouldn't have read his e-mails.

There isn't anything realistically you can do. It's totally awful of him to break off such a long relationship with so little consideration for you, but it's done now. Don't demean yourself by begging and pleading with him, it won't change anything. Have a total break from contact with him for at least a few weeks. Don't call him, don't e-mail him, don't text him, don't go to see him unless he contacts you. You need to make a break from him rather than try to cling on.

Feel free to sit in your room and cry/scream/hit pillows to let out your feelings. Write things down in a diary if it helps. Let friends know what has happened and I'm sure some of them will be happy to support you.

Reply 7

cutandpasteandtwisty

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Anonymous

Yes, i'm back...the OP of "i must be a b****...and i feel so low..." ... the good news is that my bf has now come back from holiday...the bad news is that he has found someone else...hes broken a 4 and a half yr relationship with me now because he claims that he loves her...i was in shock...and today i read his emails...and i found out that he had been flirting with her a lot on the internet...and they were hinting at the fact that they wanted to be together...i'm so hurt...i dont want to act like a drama queen like i did in my other post but really...what now? i've begged him to come back to me but he refuses to...

A four and a half year relationship, and his parents don't know who you are?! Sounds unlikely to me.

Reply 8

Eternity Forever

12

omg that is so bad! I know we can't say anything to change what happened, but just try to move on. You will find someone who is better than him and will treat you right. Feel free to cry as it helps to relieve some of the hurt, but don't do it for too long. Also going out with friends and doing different things can help you take your mind off things. Take it easy.

Reply 9

AT82

Don't have anything more to with him, stay friends if you want, but you will never be able to trust him again. When his holiday romance fails he might want to get back with you, make sure you tell him where to go even if you do want to get back with him.

Guys like this do nothing put mess people around. He wants his willy chopping off :biggrin:

Reply 10

username47781

20

Oh thats horrible what he did, he is not worth it, don't stay friends with him, cut all contact with that traiter

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Sithius

Are you the one who phoned his parents and the dad said piss off?

Yes, thats me...

AT82

Don't have anything more to with him, stay friends if you want, but you will never be able to trust him again. When his holiday romance fails he might want to get back with you, make sure you tell him where to go even if you do want to get back with him.

Guys like this do nothing put mess people around. He wants his willy chopping off :biggrin:

I'm honestly trying to forget him but I really can't stop calling him and begging him to accept me again. I felt so down that I actually told my dad about him...including the fact that I've slept with him (my parents didn't know about him before)... and as my family are Asian, my dad was furious but offered me a lot of support, which is what i need. He also told me not contact him ever again or pick up his calls, but I just can't stop calling him. And its come to a stage where its becoming suicidal.. I just got my A level results and am extremely happy with them... My family is proud of me but I am moving away as my Uni is far from home... I don't know whether I can cope with this... I feel to end my life.. but when I told my dad this, he told me that I'm still young (18), and have a whole life ahead of me...but I doubt that...my bf was my world...we spent 4 and a half years together and I still love him...how can I resist myself from calling him? I really can't stop...I've tried, believe me I have...I'm even trying to concentrate on other things and I've been in contact with this guy who claims he likes me a lot and makes me feel good about myself but I feel as though I can't live without my bf...

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

where is generalebriety when you need her?

Reply 13

R1chyP

If this is a cyber-bf we're talking about i'll come down there and slap you in the face. :smile:

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

R1chyP

If this is a cyber-bf we're talking about i'll come down there and slap you in the face. :smile:

huh?

Reply 15

*The One

1

Anonymous

Yes, i'm back...the OP of "i must be a b****...and i feel so low..." ... the good news is that my bf has now come back from holiday...the bad news is that he has found someone else...hes broken a 4 and a half yr relationship with me now because he claims that he loves her...i was in shock...and today i read his emails...and i found out that he had been flirting with her a lot on the internet...and they were hinting at the fact that they wanted to be together...i'm so hurt...i dont want to act like a drama queen like i did in my other post but really...what now? i've begged him to come back to me but he refuses to...

You begged him to come back? Are you serious, after what he did to you, you should be glad to be rid of him! :smile:

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

*The One

You begged him to come back? Are you serious, after what he did to you, you should be glad to be rid of him! :smile:

I know...it sounds so stupid but I can't forget our time together... The begging isn't working and won't work but I just don't know how to forget him... :frown:

Reply 17

Anonymous #3

cutandpasteandtwisty

A four and a half year relationship, and his parents don't know who you are?! Sounds unlikely to me.

I was in a 21 month relationship with my ex and his parents only know who I am from when I screamed down the phone at them...

Reply 18

Shreerac1

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Anonymous

I was in a 21 month relationship with my ex and his parents only know who I am from when I screamed down the phone at them...

You sound like a great communicator.

Reply 19

Helenia

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Anonymous

I know...it sounds so stupid but I can't forget our time together... The begging isn't working and won't work but I just don't know how to forget him... :frown:

Stop begging. NOW. It won't get you anywhere. You have to regain some control of yourself.

How could i be so blind?

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