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"You have no problems, your life is fine"

This saying really hits hard for me, others assume because I don't have any noticeable problems that my life is fine when it's not always. This hurts me in the same way that people telling me to "cheer up" does and I find it very belittling.

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Just ignore them.
If you are dealing with something, only you know how you really feel and you can change your situation. Don't listen to those comments and then you can concentrate on improving your situation for the better
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(Original post by Anonymous)
"You have no problems, your life is fine"

This saying really hits hard for me, others assume because I don't have any noticeable problems that my life is fine when it's not always. This hurts me in the same way that people telling me to "cheer up" does and I find it very belittling.

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You just have to ignore them. People find it difficult understanding the fact that different people have different ways of coping. Just because it might not seem like a big problem to them, it doesn't mean that it isn't for you.
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Avoid them.

This is a form of emotional abuse and bullying.

These are some articles about this exact thing.

http://bpd.about.com/od/causesofbpd/...validation.htm

http://eqi.org/invalid.htm

actually, print those articles off, and give them to people. some people just have no social skills and don't know how to interact with a person who is going through a difficult time.
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Everyone has problems. People only say that because they don't know what to say.
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I've been told that a few times, but it's best to just try not to take it to heart.
I mean, they say that because usually they've been through more than you, which isn't always the case - but hey, it's just a saying. It doesn't mean it's true, so don't worry
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I completely understand, I'm not one to show what I'm going through. I also tend to be the 'mummy' of the group, and focus on what other people are going through. When speaking to a friend who was going through some problems she said that she doesn't understand how I can seem so put together all the time and asked how I did it. So maybe it is a bit of them trying to get you to help? If you always find good ways of dealing with things maybe it is just they need some more support and advice on how to deal with things.
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