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boyfriends dad

doesn't like me because my social status is too low, I'm not blonde and I don't care enough about reputation and high paid jobs. Don't want to fall out with him for my boyfriends sake. When I speak to him face to face he's fine but he complains behind my back. What am i suppose to do?

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Reply 1

be really nice to him, make him realise you are a nice person and that you can make his son happy.

i think he may be being protective over your boyfriend too, which is understandable to a certain extent bu i assume you are not horrid to him or using him!

are you the first girfriend of the son he has had dealings with?

Reply 2

Yeah, be nice to him if you can, but don't feel that he's in the right at all. If he's an ars*hole then that's what he is, and the best thing is to keep out of his way...

Reply 3

OP

I do try to be nice to him

My boyfriends last girlfriend was blonde and an accountants daughter. He liked her. She was nice. Although she latter cheated on my boyfriend...

Reply 4

Eesh, if he's just a snob then you can't reason with him. I'd say you're best off just keeping out of his way.

Reply 5

i think he doesnt want his son being hurt again.

maybe say some nice things to your boyfriend about him so he tells him r just say "look, your dad is stressing me and im not happy" im sure your boyfriend will have a solution.

chin up and good luck with it

Reply 6

OP

i think he doesnt want his son being hurt again.

I wish. He wants him to gt a new girfriend at uni, and not stay with me, although he's happy with me. i think he's more worried that his son is too happy and might keep me. maybe I'm just being too harsh on him. He might be joking I suppose.

Thanks for your help though

Reply 7

wtf, what difference does being blond make?

Reply 8

To be fair, I have thought people didn't like me before but after knowing them for years I've realised either a. they are just unpleasant to everyone or b. they aren't nasty at all, they're just not demonstrative or emotional which come accross as coldness.

Still, if he says things behind your back then that's just out of order...

Reply 9

OP

Anonymous

wtf, what difference does being blond make?

well, not just that, he complains I don't wear flattering enough clothes. She wore mini skrts, I don't.

I have thought people didn't like me before but after knowing them for years

i get the feeling he'd like me if I wasn't attached to his son. That makes me depressed.

Reply 10

Just a thought but does he fancy you? The dad?

Reply 11

OP

I don't think so... I hope not that would be horrible. He just enjoys eyeing up women. He went to look at uni's with Bf last year and my Bf gt annoyed that he kept commenting on women

Reply 12

Schroedinger's Pandora

My boyfriends dad doesn't like me because I'm white.

*******s to them. You can't please everybody.

Reply 13

I don't like intermarriage between social classes and different races anyway. It's for the best.

Reply 14

i don't feel that mine likes me either. luckily he's never there when i go over and i hardly phone their house. i find steering clear is just the best thing to do.

Reply 15

Anonymous

I don't like intermarriage between social classes and different races anyway. It's for the best.

This sounds a bit hypocritical but whilst i wouldnt really ever want to mary some one non-white, i think that inter racial mariages are good because it joins society, instead of creating segregation. The problem is that it is seen as a slight taboo in the sense that inter racial copules are often veiwed as lower class because of sterotyping.

Reply 16

Anonymous

I don't like intermarriage between social classes and different races anyway. It's for the best.

To me that sounds just.... wrong. Since when have we controlled who we fall for?

If we did control is, H and R board would be a much quieter place.

Reply 17

Anonymous

I don't like intermarriage between social classes and different races anyway. It's for the best.

You had to post that as anon why? If you're going to make a statement like that at least justify it with some reason.

I don't see anything wrong with it. My parents are differences races, as are my neighbours.

Reply 18

Anonymous

I wish. He wants him to gt a new girfriend at uni, and not stay with me, although he's happy with me. i think he's more worried that his son is too happy and might keep me. maybe I'm just being too harsh on him. He might be joking I suppose.

Thanks for your help though

I think the best thing to do is to try to be civil with him but don't let on what you're feeling. Perhaps you could tell your boyfriend, but be aware that you'd have to do it carefully - it's never a good idea to bad-mouth someone's parents unless they've sanctioned it by introducing the topic themselves! You never know, your boyfriend might make you feel better and say that he's like that with a lot of people, or that this annoys him too about his dad but that you should ignore it.

What he says about wanting his son to get a new girlfriend at uni could be to do with him not wanting you indirectly putting a damper on his fun at uni, if he's missing you. He's probably just concerned about his son. I wouldn't take that too personally; my mum says that sort of thing to me (though he would never know, it'd be awful if he found out) and I just ignore her.

well, not just that, he complains I don't wear flattering enough clothes. She wore mini skirts, I don't.

Hmmm...this sort of makes me want to hate him, but you might be getting the wrong end of the stick. Has your boyfriend explicitly said this to you? Maybe he was just trying to say that you could look nicer, without meaning that you don't look nice as you are; it's a difficult point to get across.

In the end, it's his son you're going out with, not him. If he has a problem with you, that's all it is, his problem; don't let it sour your relationship with your boyfriend.

Reply 19

Hana_1987

You had to post that as anon why? If you're going to make a statement like that at least justify it with some reason.

I don't see anything wrong with it. My parents are differences races, as are my neighbours.

People always post nonsense like that in these kinds of threads. It's not even relevant here. Anonymous is a very useful function but the downside is that it allows trolls to spoil threads by writing their stupid backward opinions in them... I agree, they should at least leave their real username and debate their view if they think it's that valid.

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