Making friends at uni

This isn't the standard "I'm shy and want to make friends" post that you're probably all expecting by now :tongue:

I plan to stay at home and travel the short distance to Uni - about 15 minutes at the most by car. Now obviously between lectures and things, I'm not going to be able to go back to my hall as I won't have one! What kind of stuff is there to do around the campus to help me make friends and do stuff? I'm not shy - quiter the opposite actually - but I realise not living in halls is going to affect my chances. I'm very sporty, will go to the gym at my Uni and no doubt join LOTS of sports clubs. However, I don't want to do what I did at college and get into a situation where everyone knows me and speaks to me, but I'm not a part of any group. I can find myself walking around on my own when I have a lot more "friends" than other people.

My basic question is, how much will not living in halls affect me with regards to making friends, and what kind of stuff can be done on campus in the day?

Thanks!

Reply 1

Nonsmoking

12

Which uni?

Reply 2

weird_child

lol guess i was kinda u, like all my year the year above knew me.but every 1 knows that theres different groups, for popular ppl.chavs, individuals lol. the best thing is meet every 1 as you would do, but stay with a certain new friend at the same tym if that makes any sense.so then you still get too know more people but then your make 1 friend that you can hang with when ever your at uni.lol

Reply 3

weird_child

p.s lol any 1 know what topics would be the best to pick in 6th form and then university for me to become either a nursery nurse and own a nursery my self, or a child psychotherapist.lol ta :biggrin:

Reply 4

LestaBoy

Nonsmoking

Which uni?

Loughborough

kinni

p.s lol any 1 know what topics would be the best to pick in 6th form and then university for me to become either a nursery nurse and own a nursery my self, or a child psychotherapist.lol ta :biggrin:

I'd go with a science (specifically Biology), psychology and then 2 others. There'll probably be a health and social care course or something too.

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

Ive got a friend at uni who comes in by car, we met in lectures and stuff and shes on the same course and were good friends, during breaks etc we went back to mine cause i was in halls or down the union for a drink or a bite to eat

its easy to make friends at uni if your friendly, just say hi to people on your course and make conversation and stuff

Reply 6

Bubblebee

15

Before we broke up, my ex convinced me to get a flat with him and commute...part of the reason we broke up was because he couldn't see that it would make me unhappy not being around people all the time (he is a chef so would work loooong hours)....anyway my point is, you will prob need to put alot more effort to join in with people but as long as you get on with those in your classes you should be hunky-dory.... good luck to you!

Reply 7

BellaNotte

3

hmm im in the same situation, probably going to uni by car and not staying on campus.. i however am very shy :frown:

Reply 8

lala_land

I think for all the shy people it's best to stay in campus if you can, because from what i've gathered it's definatly a lot easier to make friends when you live in halls

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

lala_land

I think for all the shy people it's best to stay in campus if you can, because from what i've gathered it's definatly a lot easier to make friends when you live in halls

If I was shy, I'd definately stay on-campus. However, I'm not worried about making friends, but was more wondering how hard it'd be :smile:

Also, at freshers week, when everyone is unpacking etc, am I going to be the one standing around doing sod all, beca\use I have nothing to unpack? :tongue:

Thanks.

Reply 10

Snowfall

10

Well two of my best friends at uni don't live on campus. When I was living on campus in my first year, sometimes we'd go back to mine, or we'd do work in the library or go to the SU, hang out, go shopping, have lunch...They're both on the same course and I think we became good friends because we were together in 2 out of 3 of our module classes. It worked out well because we were free/busy at the same time so could do things together. Sad as it is, we often did homework together instead of doing it at home on our own.

Your best bet is to find people in your classes so that you're free at the same time. Most people will be in the same boat when you first start your classes/lectures because they won't know (or will know few) people in their classes/lectures. Take the opportunity to get to know lots of people and see if there are any people that you share more than one class with!

Reply 11

R1chyP

Just the fact you've had to post this on the internet for a bunch of randoms to read suggests your quite shy.

Don't try plan making friends or you'll **** up. Halls has **** all to do with it, my best mate at Uni was a local lad, we northerners get on more than the southern fairies.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

R1chyP

Just the fact you've had to post this on the internet for a bunch of randoms to read suggests your quite shy.

Don't try plan making friends or you'll **** up. Halls has **** all to do with it, my best mate at Uni was a local lad, we northerners get on more than the southern fairies.

I was more asking about general things that unis offer during the day, and what other facilities they have etc, rather than "0mg how will i evEr make a friend". Just genuinely wondered how much of a problem living at home would actually be.

I'm not in the slightest bit worried that I'm not going to make any friends.

Reply 13

R1chyP

You asked and i answered.

Stop being so insecure my friend.

The Union is open all day. Go to the Union with your course mates after lectures, all you've got to do is ask. Remember most people are shy so ask them, don't wait.

Keep in mind that your first year means nothing. I met alot of people who i'd consider as 'boring' as they wouldn't even sacrifice one lecture for a social. That may be your thing but it isn't mine. 40% is easy to get and does not carry on into the second year.

I made some of my mates just by asking if anyone fancies a pint. Once you get drunk your friendship is set in stone, providing you like them.

Reply 14

Bluefairy

11

Im staying at home, i wondered how it might affect me making friends too, but thinking about it, it doesnt really matter because you have your reasons for staying home, and if someones gunna be picky and not be ur friend cause your living at home, thats stupid.

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