Had rebound sex with an ex....the day after getting dumped Watch

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I made a few days ago, about my Long distance boyfriend dumping me about blocking me. Basically, I was in an LDR, and began to get suspicious after he didn't have much time to Skype anymore. He works in a tourist resort, at the clubs, and part of his job is to socialise. However, everyday there were new pictures coming on of him with more girls, hugging them etc. which might not be a big deal except he didn't like it when I hugged men.

Then, last weekend another guy who works there told me he saw my boyfriend kissing another girl in a club. He swore it was him. So naturally, I asked him about it, and he went crazy, he called me crazy and a *female dog* and worse, for believing the guy. He then blocked me on facebook and said I make his life hell.

This is where my judgement becomes questionable....I wanted to get back at home, both for possibly cheating on me, and for the blocking. I arranged to meet my ex and one thing led to another. I felt elevated and great, all because I felt I was getting even. I know, I'm an awful person

And now, my LDR ex has began to imessage me, saying how I deserve this punishment, as if this is a game and he is waiting for me to beg for him back and see that he was right? I feel like telling him and his punishments where to go, and how quickly I got over him.

Am I a terrible person? I feel bad that I feel so good in getting this rebound sex, even if it was with an ex bf.
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So basically you believed another guy over your boyfriend with no hard evidence and then went off and shagged someone else. Good for you.


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So basically you believed another guy over your boyfriend with no hard evidence and then went off and shagged someone else. Good for you.


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I didn't completely believe it but it matched up to my suspicions with the no skyping, all the going out, plus I have seen the clubs there. I asked him about the guy, and he went crazy at me, calling me all sorts of things you should never call a girl. He then blocked me on facebook and dumped me. I thought I would never talk to him again. And for all I know, he was shagging someone when we were still together....
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I didn't completely believe it but it matched up to my suspicions with the no skyping, all the going out, plus I have seen the clubs there. I asked him about the guy, and he went crazy at me, calling me all sorts of things you should never call a girl. He then blocked me on facebook and dumped me. I thought I would never talk to him again. And for all I know, he was shagging someone when we were still together....
Well if he dumped you it's not really a problem for him. You still slept with someone to get back at your bf becuse he might have cheated on you, based on one guy's story, rather than cause you wanted to which just makes you look like a bit of an idiot.

I still think that you should try to get evidence of cheating rather than believe random people but maybe I'm old fashioned. It sounds like you just had a bad relationship so you should have just dumped him anyway.


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Lmao, cute story. :mmm:
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I made a few days ago, about my Long distance boyfriend dumping me about blocking me. Basically, I was in an LDR, and began to get suspicious after he didn't have much time to Skype anymore. He works in a tourist resort, at the clubs, and part of his job is to socialise. However, everyday there were new pictures coming on of him with more girls, hugging them etc. which might not be a big deal except he didn't like it when I hugged men.

Then, last weekend another guy who works there told me he saw my boyfriend kissing another girl in a club. He swore it was him. So naturally, I asked him about it, and he went crazy, he called me crazy and a *female dog* and worse, for believing the guy. He then blocked me on facebook and said I make his life hell.

This is where my judgement becomes questionable....I wanted to get back at home, both for possibly cheating on me, and for the blocking. I arranged to meet my ex and one thing led to another. I felt elevated and great, all because I felt I was getting even. I know, I'm an awful person

And now, my LDR ex has began to imessage me, saying how I deserve this punishment, as if this is a game and he is waiting for me to beg for him back and see that he was right? I feel like telling him and his punishments where to go, and how quickly I got over him.

Am I a terrible person? I feel bad that I feel so good in getting this rebound sex, even if it was with an ex bf.
On a serious note, you broke up so and if he had nothing to hide he would not have blocked you. Worse thing to do would be to make up again as he will treat you like:

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I don't really see what the problem is - sounds like you had a terrible relationship with your ex, and it was LDR which always sucks, and now it's over, and you got to have sex with someone else. I wouldn't retaliate and tell him about sleeping with your ex, I'd just block his messages if you can or ignore them otherwise. It will bother him that you didn't respond and it won't make you look bad.
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P.S. I wouldn't feel bad for the sake of it, it's a waste of your time. I can't say if you were right to be suspicious or if you were being a little crazy from the info you've given, but in the end, your relationship didn't sound great.
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Am I a terrible person?
"My boyfriend allegedly cheated on me? Better go **** my ex then tell my boyfriend about it! That'll teach him!"

Yes it makes you a terrible person. You're intentionally being spiteful and seem happy knowing how tormenting it will feel for him by telling him what you did.
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I'm available... But in all seriousness don't worry about it. Everybody does things from time to time that they regret, life's all about living and learning blah blah. You'll find someone who will treat you right, you'll live happily ever after and all of this will one day seem irrelevant.
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Its girls like you that every guy should avoid
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Your BF acted like a ****, so you acted like a **** in retaliation. He then proceeded to try and be more of a **** without even being aware of your wrong-doing. You did a bad thing, but he certainly did worse, the fact that you feel bad about it afterwards and he continued to act maliciously just shows he's a turd.

Not replying to him will be the best option (block him to avoid seeing whatever he sends) and the biggest middle finger to him since he's pretty much trying to win a reaction off of you, if you up the ante by telling him what you did then he will just be more of a ****, if you don't give him a reply he'll get far more frustrated. Take joy in the fact he'll probably check his Skype every day for the next few weeks hoping that you'll reply to him while you get on with your life.
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If you split up then you can sleep with who you want. Go and have as much rebound sex as you want.
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I made a few days ago, about my Long distance boyfriend dumping me about blocking me. Basically, I was in an LDR, and began to get suspicious after he didn't have much time to Skype anymore. He works in a tourist resort, at the clubs, and part of his job is to socialise. However, everyday there were new pictures coming on of him with more girls, hugging them etc. which might not be a big deal except he didn't like it when I hugged men.

Then, last weekend another guy who works there told me he saw my boyfriend kissing another girl in a club. He swore it was him. So naturally, I asked him about it, and he went crazy, he called me crazy and a *female dog* and worse, for believing the guy. He then blocked me on facebook and said I make his life hell.

This is where my judgement becomes questionable....I wanted to get back at home, both for possibly cheating on me, and for the blocking. I arranged to meet my ex and one thing led to another. I felt elevated and great, all because I felt I was getting even. I know, I'm an awful person

And now, my LDR ex has began to imessage me, saying how I deserve this punishment, as if this is a game and he is waiting for me to beg for him back and see that he was right? I feel like telling him and his punishments where to go, and how quickly I got over him.

Am I a terrible person? I feel bad that I feel so good in getting this rebound sex, even if it was with an ex bf.
He blocked you but didn't break up, you cheated for sure, he may or may not have done... Congrats, you didn't confirm first and now you have done the wrong thing, he got mad but no need to **** someone else!
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Sounds like you were both slightly dickish, but don't worry about it. You're human, move on and enjoy your life.
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The LDR sounds like a joke. Neither or you are happy with it as evidenced by the fact that he dumped you and you shagged your ex immediately afterwards.

Break off all contact with the LDR ex, don't get back together with him and then try to grow up a bit...
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OP are you an idiot?
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