is being ugly THAT bad of a thing?

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I've always thought that if someone were charismatic, intelligent etc. enough, they'd do fine on the social scene, regardless of what their face looked like.
a friend of mine completely disagrees and seems to be of the opinion that if someone is ugly, they might as well kiss any chances of having an active social life (before 30) goodbye.

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i always thought that if someone were charismatic, intelligent etc. that they'd do fine on the social scene, regardless of what their face looked like. a friend of mine completely disagrees and seems to be of the opinion that if someone is ugly, they might as well kiss any chances of having an active social life (before >30) goodbye.

what do you think, tsr?
I agree with you...

But that's probably because I fit into the closer-to-ugly-than-good-looking side and I'd like to hope a social life is possible
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It helps if you aren't :lol: I think it does hold you back on some level, speaking from experience, but then I guess if people don't want to be your friend because of how you look, do you really want to spend time with them anyway?


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It helps if you aren't :lol: I think it does hold you back on some level, speaking from experience, but then I guess if people don't want to be your friend because of how you look, do you really want to spend time with them anyway?


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explain? i'm interested because I've never come across someone who's disliked another purely because of how they (both) look.
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Quite a lot of girls in my early high school years weren't so keen on being seen with me even just sitting with me at school, never mind in a social setting, because of how I looked.

I guess (unrelated to my above explanation) as well, being less attractive can make you less confident in speaking to people who you know are more attractive, kind of holding yourself back socially.


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Being attractive obviously helps, but charisma and personality is much more important for a social life.
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Confidence is key. I know attractive guys who struggle socially because they lack confidence. Equally, I have less attractive friends who go out and are the centre of the party. Purely because they have confidence. Although saying that I do believe that there's usually a direct correlation between attractiveness and confidence, the two go hand in hand. But if you're not the best looking person in the world then acting with confidence can take you a long, long way.
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Being attractive obviously helps, but charisma and personality is much more important for a social life.
but why would someone want to be your friend because of your looks? do I have a different definition of 'friend' from the rest of the world??? argh, this thread is annoying me already.
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I agree with you...

But that's probably because I fit into the closer-to-ugly-than-good-looking side and I'd like to hope a social life is possible
If that's your picture and you consider yourself ugly, then we need to find a new word for ugly.
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If that's your picture and you consider yourself ugly, then we need to find a new word for ugly.
Never said I was ugly... :laugh:
That photo is an awful representation of me though, I look a lottt worse in reality.
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Never said I was ugly... :laugh:
That photo is an awful representation of me though, I look a lottt worse in reality.
I would like to see that.
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I would like to see that.
What, me now? :erm:
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What, me now? :erm:
Your real pic or maybe you in real if that's what you are saying.
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Your real pic or maybe you in real if that's what you are saying.
So confused... PM me.
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Embrace yourself ^_^
Be happy with the way you loook
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Embrace yourself ^_^
Be happy with the way you loook
not what im asking but thanks for the motiv. brah gonna do 199 turbo dead lifts now
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(Original post by dire wolf)
explain? i'm interested because I've never come across someone who's disliked another purely because of how they (both) look.
I don't think it's about what others say though, it's about worrying what others might think. Ugly people aren't really rejected socially, except by people that aren't worth knowing in the first place. The rejection comes from themselves.
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not what im asking but thanks for the motiv. brah gonna do 199 turbo dead lifts now
Why does everyone say brah
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According to the likes of the Daily Mail, most people in the UK are ugly! :mad:
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But the Daily Mail talks utter *******s.


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