Girlfriends father saw our dirty messages... Watch

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Title self explanatory really.

Girlfriends father saw our messages after he slyly took her phone and indulged himself into her Facebook messages, which were from months ago. Ever since he saw the old messages which were sexual he threw a tantrum. Even slapped my gf, and my hands are tied... I've told my gf to allow us to meet but she's scared to even tell her dad incase he might try something on me. By the way her mother has cancer so her father's very stressed and thus I've always supported my gf emotionally and financially. He wants us two to end our relationship and he stresses her mother too whilst she's lying in hospital beds. I've told my gf we should talk once every night for 30 minutes. I've done everything possible to get out of his way. She recently went on holiday where her mother is receiving treatment and the father continues to intimidate and interrogate her. What must I do to earn his trust back or what should I be doing? If you need more info let me know...
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How old is your girlfriend, surely he cannot her dictate her life let alone abuse her. Could you talk to him, maybe he still believes that she is still his little girl
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How old are you both? If you are both over 16 then really, it's none of his business and he certainly is out of line by slapping her and by going through her messages in the first place.

Psycho dad.
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Can jI ask your ethnic background?
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Yolo.
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(Original post by *Dreaming*)
How old are you both? If you are both over 16 then really, it's none of his business and he certainly is out of line by slapping her and by going through her messages in the first place.

Psycho dad.
I'm 20 and she's 18, that's exactly what I thought, it's his fault for scavenging through her phone.
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Yolo.
HAHAHA best advice
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(Original post by Huskaris)
Can jI ask your ethnic background?
Turkish. Turkish fathers tend to be very, verryyy jealous and protective over their daughters.
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Turkish. Turkish fathers tend to be very, verryyy jealous and protective over their daughters.
Get him some Turkish delight. The food. Not another woman.
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We that must be extremely awkward. I think the safest thing to do is pack your backs and live in the mountains.
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We that must be extremely awkward. I think the safest thing to do is pack your backs and live in the mountains.
It's ok, I can take a few bullets. Then make an album and become 50 cent's rival.
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Tell the father "Sir, I think your daughter is hideous, I would never want to do such depraved sexual things to her!" then the father will be all like "WHAAAT?!" then say "lol jk I love her" & the father will be like "awwwwww" & your problem is solved.
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I think he's just looking out for his daughter, you'd probably react the same way if you had a daughter. ALL dads are protective of their children, especially their daughters. He doesn't want her to end up pregnant or heartbroken in the end hence why he's upset with you.

Slapping her is hardly abuse, he loves his daughter and wants the best for her, the slap was probably out of anger I'm sure. No dad wants to see their daughter's sext messages, in fact no dad wants their daughter to be sexting people online.
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what the hell did he think he was doing looking into her facebook messages?
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(Original post by saarah_)
I think he's just looking out for his daughter, you'd probably react the same way if you had a daughter. ALL dads are protective of their children, especially their daughters. He doesn't want her to end up pregnant or heartbroken in the end hence why he's upset with you.

Slapping her is hardly abuse, he loves his daughter and wants the best for her, the slap was probably out of anger I'm sure. No dad wants to see their daughter's sext messages, in fact no dad wants their daughter to be sexting people online.
Replace the word daughter with wife and everyone would be screaming abuse. It is no different here, it is abusive for him to be slapping his daughter who is a fully grown adult for this.

OP all you can do is try to stay out of the way until things calm down. It's up to your girlfriend how she handles her father I'm afraid.
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I think you should cut to the point and admit to him that you would love nothing more than to be inside his daughter for the rest of the year. Honesty is the best policy. :mmm:
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Why don't you man up and go and talk to the father face to face instead of hiding. Even if he hits you, take the pain and that will show you love her.
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To be honest, he was nosy and he found out something innocent that he didnt like. He's definitely in the wrong and handling it as badly as he could be.
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Replace the word daughter with wife and everyone would be screaming abuse. It is no different here, it is abusive for him to be slapping his daughter who is a fully grown adult for this.

OP all you can do is try to stay out of the way until things calm down. It's up to your girlfriend how she handles her father I'm afraid.
Being 18 doesn't mean you're a fully grown adult, she's still a bloody teenager, she's just legal that's all. I don't think he hit her because he wanted to, like I said it was probably out of anger. Just because a child has reached a certain age does not mean a parent has no right to tell them off.
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If you really love her, go talk to the father. If the father really cared about his daughter, he'd let her stay with you as that is what she wants. It's not like your 13, you're adults now and that dad has to accept that.

Is she his only child?
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