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HELP. My parents control my life, even my love life?! Watch

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    My overprotective Asian parents have always been controlling.
    And because I didn't want them to hate me, I played the role of the good daughter and succumbed to their pressure throughout my whole life.

    Now that I'm in university, they still control my life. They won't let me date until after I graduate, I can't have sex, I can't have friends that go clubbing etc anything that will be a 'bad influence', I am not allowed to date anyone who is not an oriental Asian. They are telling me what to do, what job I should take in the future, also what to eat and how I should look. And also, i am not allowed to have a job.

    It's excruciating and because of the way they raised me up, I got clinical depression for a few years and when I told them this, they blamed me and said they're doing all this for my own sake and called me an awful child I don't mean to sound ungrateful, they have good intentions but i'm feeling upset because of them. Any advice? i can't move out, i don't have a job and i'm still in university.

    First get a job, seriously, what are they going to do, tie you up? Save up some money and move out, become self suffiencent do what makes you happy

    2 choices.. do as they say, or do what you want. May be consequences involved but yolo right.

    You are an adult, you should make your own choices and learn from mistakes. Your parents are supposed to encourage you to be independent but now they're just making you to be very dependent on them. Just find a job and when you save up enough, maybe find somewhere else to live because what your parents do, is just too much. It's not like they are going to put you into a tower like in movie 'Tangled'
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