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    I like this girl for a while now
    But she has a boyfriend who lives in another country. (Long distance relationship 4+ yrs) She plans to marry him.

    I told her how I feel.She said that I already know she has a boyfriend and that she loves him and that I shouldn't be selfish.

    I said ok I'm sorry, but we can stay friends.

    I'm finding it very difficult. But I want to stay friends with her because we get on really well together and she considers me her close friend.

    I can't tell her how I feel again or it will ruin our friendship. I was already very close to ruining it the first time I told her. She said to me we can't be friends anymore because she doesn't want to see me sad. But I said to her don't worry I will be ok.

    But I'm really not ok.

    It's currently the summer holidays so I haven't seen her for 2 months and I won't see her until October.

    I know she loves somebody else and I should accept that but I am always thinking about her.

    I am always thinking what is she doing, how is she, etc. And I always get jealous and uncomfortable when she is talking to other guys. Why is that? How can I stop thinking like that?

    I really don't know what to do.

    Also, regarding her boyfriend, he is living in another country and they have only met once, yet they have been talking, skyping for 4yrs. I don't see them being together but she is adamant about it.

    Can somebody offer some good advice as to what I should do?

    She really is a good friend you know. If she's telling you for your own sake that you can't be friends with her because it'll hurt you more. The best thing for you to do is cut contact and move on in life. It'll be tough and take time but you will find another girl you'll like. You won't feel any better staying where you are right now and there's nothing you can do about it so help yourself and get busy in other things to keep your mind off.

    tl;dr Stop being jelly. Man the **** up and move on. Plenty more fish in the sea.
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