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    I've been with my girlfriend for 7 months. In the first month we used condoms religiously but in the last 6 months we haven't used them at all and I finish inside her each and every time. I should also add that she doesn't use birth control.

    We are both very fit and lead a healthy, active life style and neither of us have ever had an STD and my fertility levels are completely fine. Ironically, we aren't even trying to have a baby but isn't it a bit worrying that she hasn't gotten pregnant by now? We use pregnancy tests here and there just to make sure and they all read negative.

    Before we were going out, she went to a gynaecologist who said she has small cysts on her ovaries and advised her that it shouldn't affect her chances of having a baby in the future. The gynaecologist however, happens to be a good friend of her mum's and she doesn't want to risk asking her for sexual advise regarding this because she will tell her mum she's been having sex.

    In light of this, could these cysts be affecting her fertility?

    TLDR; my GF and I have been having unprotected sex with no birth control for 6 months and I'm worried there's something affecting her fertility.
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    Are you sure its her and not you?
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    Is it PCOS your girlfriend has? This can effect fertility.

    Although I'm confussed why you two are regularly having sex without using any contraception at all if you're not trying for a baby and now wouldn't be a good time for her to fall pregnant (I'm assuming this because you say that she doesn't want her mum to know she's sexually active)?



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    No it's not worrying.

    My husband and I have never had any fertility problems, but it still took us 8 months of actively trying to conceive, when we were trying for our 2nd baby.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    my fertility levels are completely fine.
    How do you know?

    Ironically, we aren't even trying to have a baby but isn't it a bit worrying that she hasn't gotten pregnant by now? We use pregnancy tests here and there just to make sure and they all read negative.
    Without using contraception, only about 85% of couples conceive in a year. You've only been going for six months.

    Before we were going out, she went to a gynaecologist who said she has small cysts on her ovaries and advised her that it shouldn't affect her chances of having a baby in the future. The gynaecologist however, happens to be a good friend of her mum's and she doesn't want to risk asking her for sexual advise regarding this because she will tell her mum she's been having sex.
    Erm, you're not trying to have her pregnant, but you're actively doing nothing to stop it and you don't want her mum knowing she's being sexual?

    Is this trolling or stupidity?
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    ticking timebomb...
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    just to add to all off the above posts if your girlfriend went to seek advice from the gynaecologist at her work place then she wouldnt be allowed to say anything to anyone as its private and confidential however if she spoke to her when she wasnt at work it would be a different matter
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    I had been having sex with my partner while I wasn't on the pill and didn't get pregnant (not that we were trying!). I then found out I had poly cystic ovaries.

    PCOS Can cause fertility problems unfortunately .

    Definitely worth speaking to a gynaecologist if you are thinking of starting a family.


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    1. PCOS can cause infertility
    2. Maybe it's you and your swimmers won't be making the Olympic team anytime soon
    3. No contraception for 6 months? You're a moron


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    (Original post by Bethanieee)
    I had been having sex with my partner while I wasn't on the pill and didn't get pregnant (not that we were trying!). I then found out I had poly cystic ovaries.

    PCOS Can cause fertility problems unfortunately .

    Definitely worth speaking to a gynaecologist if you are thinking of starting a family.


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    If you're having regular unprotected sex, how is that NOT trying?
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    TLDR; my GF and I have been having unprotected sex with no birth control for 6 months and I'm worried there's something affecting her fertility.
    As people have said - you could both have normal fertility. Take 100 couples having sex for a whole year then 85 will conceive but 25 won't have (or v early miscarriage) but give it another year or up to about 90-95 probably will have.


    - If they are multiple small cysts then she could have polycystic ovarian syndrome which can reduce fertility if you're not ovulating regularly. But every woman were scanned then lots would have incidental polycystic ovaries without having a syndrome or any impact on their fertility. If a woman does have PCOS then getting within a normal BMI can often cancel out the syndrome aspect completely (& is probably a good idea before trying to conceive anyway) - or there are tablets that can be used to trigger ovulation.

    - Your fertility levels are completely fine & it must be her? :rolleyes: So how many children do you have now to other Baby-Mummas? Or which microscope do you own for a bit of DIY sperm-analysis?
 
 
 
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