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    I really like this girl for a while now
    But she has a boyfriend who lives in another country. (Long distance relationship 4+ yrs) She plans to marry him.

    I told her how I feel. She said that I already know she has a boyfriend and that she loves him and that I shouldn't be selfish.

    I said ok I'm sorry, but we can stay friends.

    I'm finding it very difficult. But I want to stay friends with her because we get on really well together and she considers me her close friend.

    I can't tell her how I feel again or it will ruin our friendship. I was already very close to ruining it the first time I told her. She said to me we can't be friends anymore because she doesn't want to see me sad. But I said to her don't worry I will be ok.

    But I'm really not ok.

    It's currently the summer holidays so I haven't seen her for 2 months and I won't see her until October.

    I know she loves somebody else and I should accept that but I am always thinking about her.

    I am always thinking what is she doing, how is she, etc. And I always get jealous and uncomfortable when she is talking to other guys. Why is that? How can I stop thinking like that? I know we are just friends but I get upset too easily. I over analyse every small thing and it's driving me insane.

    I really don't know what to do.

    Also, regarding her boyfriend, he is living in another country and they have only met once, yet they have been talking, skyping for 4yrs. I don't see them being together but she is determined she will.

    Can somebody offer some good advice as to what I should do?

    Dude you need to date a few girls to help you stop obsessing over this particularly unavailable one, then you will be able to genuinely be friends with her. but dont think that you have any, not even the slightest, chance of having a relationship with her, she loves another and is monogamous so while that situation remains, she will not be able to love you. Do not try to stay friends with her if any part of the reason for that is because you still harbour thoughts that there may be a chance to get with her. Forget it.
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    I am in the same situation as yours.

    I still can't think that my boyfriend left me. Actually it was in long distance relationship but, unfortunately I was just cheated.

    He left me and I stay alone here. I tried emailing him but had no response. AT LEAST , u have your friendship maintained. I find it truely difficult. Now, I am ok but yet not fully recovered:sad:

    Better move with different friends. See any girls who interest u. Just go study. Talk to girls you are interested. You can tell them your situation and be friends. If they are interested they will tell you and you can get on, definitely:console:

    Don't worry:lovehug:
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