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    As the title says would you get in a relationship with someone who has cheated in the past?

    Does that old saying once a cheater always a cheater ring true?
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    Yes, providing certain boxes were ticked.

    If I have feelings for the man, he makes me happy and it is a healthy relationship then I wouldn't allow their past mistakes to just discard the chance of a relationship. I don't think they should be condemned to never be happy again because of mistakes that could have happened many years ago as a result of various circumstances.

    Or...yanno..maybe I'm just a pushover :mmm:
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    Not a chance.
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    Nope. Not because he'd necessarily do it to me, but because to me it shows a lack of basic decency, which I couldn't abide in a partner.
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    Probably not.
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    (Original post by DeceitfulDove)
    Yes, providing certain boxes were ticked.

    If I have feelings for the man, he makes me happy and it is a healthy relationship then I wouldn't allow their past mistakes to just discard the chance of a relationship. I don't think they should be condemned to never be happy again because of mistakes that could have happened many years ago as a result of various circumstances.

    Or...yanno..maybe I'm just a pushover :mmm:
    Same as this. I actually briefly dated someone recently who had previously cheated on someone, and it didn't factor into my decision at all over whether I wanted a relationship with him. I don't believe in once a cheater always a cheater. The vast majority of people who have cheated in a relationship are not serial cheaters.
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    Women on here are so forgiving /s :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by DeceitfulDove)
    Yes, providing certain boxes were ticked.

    If I have feelings for the man, he makes me happy and it is a healthy relationship then I wouldn't allow their past mistakes to just discard the chance of a relationship. I don't think they should be condemned to never be happy again because of mistakes that could have happened many years ago as a result of various circumstances.

    Or...yanno..maybe I'm just a pushover :mmm:

    (Original post by syrettd)
    Same as this. I actually briefly dated someone recently who had previously cheated on someone, and it didn't factor into my decision at all over whether I wanted a relationship with him. I don't believe in once a cheater always a cheater. The vast majority of people who have cheated in a relationship are not serial cheaters.
    I agree with these answers.
    It seems weird to condemn someone forever for something they've once done. Sayings like 'once a cheater, always a cheater' are usually pretty silly because human beings aren't that simple and everyone has made a mistake or done something they shouldn't have!
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    No. I wouldn't be afraid that they would cheat on me per se, but because I don't think I'd find them in any way attractive if I knew they cheated. If I found out after I fell in love with them, maybe…
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    Yes. People can change. I'm not gonna discard a potentially amazing relationship when I'm 30 or something, because my partner cheated when he was 18.
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    Oh really,what a fuss. Its just sex, a basic human driver and as long as they play safe whats the problem?
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    I would be fearful enough of someone possibly cheating on me while in a relationship without going with someone who has actually done it in a previous relationship. If I was just after sex or a bit of fun then yeah, I would go with someone who had cheated before but not if a serious relationship was what I was looking for.
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    No I wouldn't. Not if I knew beforehand.
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    (Original post by TheLittlestElf)
    As the title says would you get in a relationship with someone who has cheated in the past?

    Does that old saying once a cheater always a cheater ring true?

    No. A character flaw. Just like somebody with a conviction for theft. You going to place him/her in charge of counting the takings for the day?

    Why risk the possible emotional distress with somebody with such a character flaw?
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    Depends if they've changed or not.
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    It all depends on whether the guy is rich obviously.
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    (Original post by Old_Simon)
    It all depends on whether the guy is rich obviously.

    Yeah such a lovely outlook in life.
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    Already have done once, and I wouldn't rule out doing it again.
 
 
 
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