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    I was happy and looking forward to going to Uni but recently something was said to me and I don't feel too eager now.

    Basically, I will be 25 when I start Uni. I don't have any friends my own age meaning I've never had a social life. I have applied to stay in the Uni accommodation. There is me happy thinking that my life will turn around for the better and then somebody mentioned how a lot there will be younger and I'm not going to find myself socialising too much because of my age.

    I know they are probably wrong, but I've now found myself worrying that I'm going to spend more time in my life alone. I've suffered from self confidence and self esteem over the years which is why I'm in that position.

    Is there many mature students staying at Universities? Is is still possible to have a social life (going out with friends) when your my age?
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    I too will be 25, and have been laughed at by my sister, and made to feel like a fool. Better late than never, so lets prove them wrong
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    Nobody will think twice about your age unless you make it a big deal for them. There will be plenty of others your age or older - mature students, post grads, etc.
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    I think what I'm worried about is the older students being the kind who just study and disappear off home or keep to their selves. I think I am just hoping to relive what I missed out such as nights out etc.
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    (Original post by HintOfAsparagus)
    I think what I'm worried about is the older students being the kind who just study and disappear off home or keep to their selves. I think I am just hoping to relive what I missed out such as nights out etc.
    that's what uni societies are for, don't worry!
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    (Original post by HintOfAsparagus)
    I was happy and looking forward to going to Uni but recently something was said to me and I don't feel too eager now.

    Basically, I will be 25 when I start Uni. I don't have any friends my own age meaning I've never had a social life. I have applied to stay in the Uni accommodation. There is me happy thinking that my life will turn around for the better and then somebody mentioned how a lot there will be younger and I'm not going to find myself socialising too much because of my age.

    I know they are probably wrong, but I've now found myself worrying that I'm going to spend more time in my life alone. I've suffered from self confidence and self esteem over the years which is why I'm in that position.

    Is there many mature students staying at Universities? Is is still possible to have a social life (going out with friends) when your my age?
    I reckon you will be fine I'm 37 and going to uni in September. I must admit its scary but I reckon you just have to grab it and make the most of it
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    You'll be fine. There will be loads of people in their 20s in halls, and why shouldn't you socialise with younger people anyway? If you don't mind, they won't.
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    I am 39, starting uni in October and I won't be able to live in and socialise with everyone due to family commitments and health issues. Remember everyone will be nervous, it's all new. I met first years at uni open day and they were all welcoming of everyone no matter what age they were.


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    Remember that there will also be a lot of international students (for people from Nordic countries it is totally normal to start your undergrad when you're 25, for example) AND master's and PhD students who tend to be closer to your age range by default, and they won't care which degree you're doing.
    I think the key thing is to try to remember that there will be SO many people in exactly the same situation as you, keen to make friends their age and afraid of being left alone: you just need to make a little bit of effort to find them! Get a new hobby, join societies and find out if there is a mature student's association or a post-grad association, my uni had both. You'll be fine!
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    I am 32 and start my degree this year too. From my experience so far in life, you will find there are plenty of younger students who are actually more comfortable in the company of older, more mature students.

    I have always been more comfortable around older people, even back in my teens. Older people have more life experience in general and their insights are often extremely valuable. Plus we will be sought especially by those who are struggling to cope with their sparkling new independence.

    I am sure that the people you enjoy spending time with will not be hard to find. Societies are an excellent place to find those people.
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    My lecturer was 42 when he went to uni and lived in uni halls. He loved it lol, really related to the "younger ones" and was always out on the p*** . You'll be fine x


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    My mum was 51 when she went to uni and yeah, people were younger but she really enjoyed her time at uni and was really sad to finish. You'll be fine, don't worry about your age. If it is an consolation I'm 19 and going to uni in September and I certainly won't be bothered or less likely to talk or socialise with someone just because of their age.
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    I'll be 30 when i start at Durham Uni in September, people were great at the open day and did put me at ease but think i'll always be a little bit nervous until i get there and meet everyone. Posts like this always help as i know i'm not the only one feeling nervous and getting to know people through TSR means we could all meet up on freshers! :-) lol x
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    In the nicest possible way it's great to see so many worriers! I too am worried at 35 years old and have two boys and a husband...I worry that I won't fit in with the younger crowd. I have just finished 2 years at college with my friends being in their late teens and early twenties!
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    I worried about the age difference between me and the other students when I started access as I was 37 when I started and a large proportion of the students on my course were late teens to mid twenties. In fact the age was only something thought about by me really.

    Over the course of the last year we have socialised together, studied together and even become hysterical together when the workload got really crazy. Above all we've supported each other and become firm friends.

    I also worry about it for going to university in September despite knowing that it hasn't been an issue on this course but I keep telling myself that there is no need to worry. Just like last September when beginning the Access course welcome week in Uni will be full of people who are wanting to study the same things as me and I'm sure we'll get along fine.

    In terms of moving into halls, there are quite a few people on my Access course who are between the same age as you and their early 30's who are going into halls. I'm sure you'll be fine.



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    I'm 32 and will be in halls for my first year. I can't say the age gap isn't on my mind, but I think there are two main options: shy away, reserve yourself, don't test the waters; or get out, dive in, and take any (reasonable) opportunity.

    I've been told by a few recent graduates that age isn't much of a factor at all and the most important social events are Freshers' Week and societies. I don't think you have to get utterly bladdered every night, but it seems important to get out there early--when almost everyone is a stranger to everyone else--the perfect time to meet new folk.

    I won't be whacking Radio 1 on, or shouting about the latest YA trilogy sensation, but get some booze (or tea) to share, get out there, and I think you'll be grand.
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    (Original post by HintOfAsparagus)
    I was happy and looking forward to going to Uni but recently something was said to me and I don't feel too eager now.

    Basically, I will be 25 when I start Uni. I don't have any friends my own age meaning I've never had a social life. I have applied to stay in the Uni accommodation. There is me happy thinking that my life will turn around for the better and then somebody mentioned how a lot there will be younger and I'm not going to find myself socialising too much because of my age.

    I know they are probably wrong, but I've now found myself worrying that I'm going to spend more time in my life alone. I've suffered from self confidence and self esteem over the years which is why I'm in that position.

    Is there many mature students staying at Universities? Is is still possible to have a social life (going out with friends) when your my age?
    It's definitely possible, people don't choose friends by age at uni and besides many might not even realise your older than them. Obviously for most 18/19 year old freshers socialising involves a lot of clubbing- depending on the flat you get put in you might have to make an effort finding others who don't like clubbing if that isn't your thing e.g by joining societies and halls can be noisy and messy.
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    I'm 25 too and that's probably been my biggest worry about going to uni and livin in halls. But I think we just have to wait and see who we get put in with I suppose
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    I'm 44 and going to uni in September, I'm not even slightly worried about being even older than most of the lecturers! I won't be living on campus as I can get a similar room for half the price off campus but I'm really not worried about the social aspect, Just going to turn up and see how things go.
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    If anyone ever accuses you of being a dirty old man, or a sick pervert for drunkenly crawling around union bars, Halls or astroturf pitches with girls half your age (much more likely to be accused of this on TSR than in real life), - don't get defensive, don't apologise, just own it and buy everyone a round.

    Not that I would know, of course. Pure hypothesis.
 
 
 
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