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    I just don't know how to go about this, but I really need my friends to be there for me right now but how can they be if they don't know I need them?

    I just don't know what to do, I know one of my friends suffers from depression although he thinks I don't know but I have noticed
    I'm not sure if I should tell him because he'll understand
    or if I could end up making his depression worse if I tell him I'm depressed as well. :/
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    Just tell them and they will be there for you, easyyy. Lol.

    Just go up to them and tell them, if they're not paying attention just slap them and say there was a mosquito and then tell them - don't really ,lol.
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    It's a really really tricky one, I can't remember how I've told mine (those that know), I think I've just awkwardly said it... I have friends with depression as well, and I reckon chances are he'd prefer it if you were honest with him and said that you are depressed. If there are points where he can't cope with it or support you, that's down to him and obviously understandable (and that goes for people who are depressed) but like you say, he can't know you might need support if you don't tell him. I really hope telling people goes well and you get the support you need, and that things improve soon. I hope this makes sense, head is half asleep!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's a really really tricky one, I can't remember how I've told mine (those that know), I think I've just awkwardly said it... I have friends with depression as well, and I reckon chances are he'd prefer it if you were honest with him and said that you are depressed. If there are points where he can't cope with it or support you, that's down to him and obviously understandable (and that goes for people who are depressed) but like you say, he can't know you might need support if you don't tell him. I really hope telling people goes well and you get the support you need, and that things improve soon. I hope this makes sense, head is half asleep!
    It's okay you made sense thank you
    I just worry about my friend, I'd rather put his needs above mine and I'm not sure if he'd be comfortable talking about it. As for my other friends I love them to bits, one in particular I trust but I don't want to drive them away with my depression as it has affected relationships badly in the past for me :/
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    (Original post by AngelPhys)
    Just tell them and they will be there for you, easyyy. Lol.

    Just go up to them and tell them, if they're not paying attention just slap them and say there was a mosquito and then tell them - don't really ,lol.
    Phaha thanks :') I wish it were that simple and easy
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Phaha thanks :') I wish it were that simple and easy
    It is, lol.
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    (Original post by AngelPhys)
    It is, lol.
    Maybe for you, but it's not that way for everyone. I struggled to tell my doctor and well that went really badly and I didn't speak about it anyone for over a year.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Maybe for you, but it's not that way for everyone. I struggled to tell my doctor and well that went really badly and I didn't speak about it anyone for over a year.
    Lol, don't worry about it. No one is going to shout at you for doing anything. Your problem is only temporary. And it's also the problem, not you, lol .
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    "Friends, I are severely despessed. Help me pls"
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    (Original post by AngelPhys)
    Lol, don't worry about it. No one is going to shout at you for doing anything. Your problem is only temporary. And it's also the problem, not you, lol .
    I don't even know what you mean by this?
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    hey, I know it's tough, I keep feeling like this at the moment. Honestly I would say it's best you tell people individually. I think they will take you more seriously. I would say something along the lines of; "I'm having a really tough time right now, and I could really do with somebody to support me" as cheesey as it may sound, I did that and my friends helped me out along the way. I hope things get better for you soon.
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    (Original post by Robocop656)
    hey, I know it's tough, I keep feeling like this at the moment. Honestly I would say it's best you tell people individually. I think they will take you more seriously. I would say something along the lines of; "I'm having a really tough time right now, and I could really do with somebody to support me" as cheesey as it may sound, I did that and my friends helped me out along the way. I hope things get better for you soon.
    Hey thanks that's a pretty good way of saying it because I wouldn't be yelling depression off the bat. The main thing I'm worried about is people not understanding as whether we like it or not there is still a massive stigma on depression and some people still don't believe it is real.
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    Suffered with depression and no one knew expect for my GP. Don't try going at this alone-one guy have me this analogy. It's like you're in a deep hole, and it's possible to get out if you claw at the sides, but it's easier if someone throws you a rope. Feels hopeless now, but you'll be strong if you make it out the hole. Good luck.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Hey thanks that's a pretty good way of saying it because I wouldn't be yelling depression off the bat. The main thing I'm worried about is people not understanding as whether we like it or not there is still a massive stigma on depression and some people still don't believe it is real.
    I definitely agree with you, which is probably why it's best not to yell depression as you say. Simply inform them that you are struggling. If they know you well enough, I think they will interpret that it's deeper than just an off day. Failing that, there are plenty of people including myself who has an open inbox ready to listen to whatever venting you need. Nobody needs a patronising voice saying oh it'll be better tomorrow, or I know how you feel.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Hey thanks that's a pretty good way of saying it because I wouldn't be yelling depression off the bat. The main thing I'm worried about is people not understanding as whether we like it or not there is still a massive stigma on depression and some people still don't believe it is real.
    If you don't want to look like an attention seeker (not that you would), you could set it up so that it's "discovered", rather than you telling them.

    For example, I've had mental health problems for the last few years. I got secretive round my iPad and wouldn't let anyone use it when they wanted to look something up. I was worried that people would think there was porn on it, so I just told them the truth that I'd been posting on a suicide forum.
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    (Original post by Dani California)
    Suffered with depression and no one knew expect for my GP. Don't try going at this alone-one guy have me this analogy. It's like you're in a deep hole, and it's possible to get out if you claw at the sides, but it's easier if someone throws you a rope. Feels hopeless now, but you'll be strong if you make it out the hole. Good luck.
    Thank you appreciate the support, I hope you're coping well
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    (Original post by Robocop656)
    I definitely agree with you, which is probably why it's best not to yell depression as you say. Simply inform them that you are struggling. If they know you well enough, I think they will interpret that it's deeper than just an off day. Failing that, there are plenty of people including myself who has an open inbox ready to listen to whatever venting you need. Nobody needs a patronising voice saying oh it'll be better tomorrow, or I know how you feel.
    Yeah I see your point, I think my friends no me well though they have only known me for a bit less than a year. Though they are the only friends I have.
    And thank you I appreciate it
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    (Original post by nohomo)
    If you don't want to look like an attention seeker (not that you would), you could set it up so that it's "discovered", rather than you telling them.

    For example, I've had mental health problems for the last few years. I got secretive round my iPad and wouldn't let anyone use it when they wanted to look something up. I was worried that people would think there was porn on it, so I just told them the truth that I'd been posting on a suicide forum.
    Hmm I see where you are coming from but I'd rather just be straight with people.
    I do have visible scars and I have wondered if they have made the deduction that they were self inflicted or if they're just oblivious to it.
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    (Original post by nohomo)
    If you don't want to look like an attention seeker (not that you would), you could set it up so that it's "discovered", rather than you telling them.

    For example, I've had mental health problems for the last few years. I got secretive round my iPad and wouldn't let anyone use it when they wanted to look something up. I was worried that people would think there was porn on it, so I just told them the truth that I'd been posting on a suicide forum.
    I'm sure they were relieved.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Hmm I see where you are coming from but I'd rather just be straight with people.
    I do have visible scars and I have wondered if they have made the deduction that they were self inflicted or if they're just oblivious to it.
    Fair enough. I suppose the fact that it happened to me by accident meant there was less risk that it'd look "set up". It's probably better to be straight with people (but I accept no liability for what happens )
 
 
 
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