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    I was wondering if it would be considered weird or unusual to be living alone instead of in halls or with flatmates? I think of home as somewhere to relax and unwind. For a variety of reasons, I think it would be much easier to do that in a flat on my own that it would be if I was living with other people. I like having my own space, basically. Was curious if anyone here is currently living, or has lived on their own while at uni. Did you regret it at all or feel like you missed out on any experiences?
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    I rented an apartment by myself in my second year, but I wouldn't recommend it tbh. In my experience it is very difficult not to feel like an outsider and become somewhat isolated when you're living alone at uni. But then I'm not the most outgoing person in the first place, so maybe somebody more sociable would manage better. :dontknow:
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    You don't spend 24/7 with flatmates or people in halls. You have your own room to relax and unwind in if you want to. And if you can pick flatmates then pick people who are happy for everyone to be relatively private.

    Living alone can be very lonely (it's nice to have people to chat to when you're stressed or bored, and people to do things with) and also it's a lot more expensive than sharing, so you usually end up living in a highly priced cupboard. Depending on where you go to Uni.

    Personally I think you'll find it's perfectly possible to relax and unwind in your room. It's not like you're selling all your personal space to the highest bidder.
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    (Original post by seaholme)
    You don't spend 24/7 with flatmates or people in halls. You have your own room to relax and unwind in if you want to. And if you can pick flatmates then pick people who are happy for everyone to be relatively private.

    Living alone can be very lonely (it's nice to have people to chat to when you're stressed or bored, and people to do things with) and also it's a lot more expensive than sharing, so you usually end up living in a highly priced cupboard. Depending on where you go to Uni.

    Personally I think you'll find it's perfectly possible to relax and unwind in your room. It's not like you're selling all your personal space to the highest bidder.
    I just don't really like the idea of sharing a bathroom, kitchen, tv and internet connection with a bunch of strangers. I also can't imagine there'd be much privacy with 4 or 5 people sharing a flat. Perhaps I'm just not very sociable :/
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    I lived with people in my early years at uni and then decided to live by myself (mainly because I really needed to concentrate that final year on my grades and I didn't want any distractions from flatmates).

    Living with others, especially in first year, is important in my opinion. Everybody else will be in the same boat as you. I lived in a flat with 5 other guys in my first year and all the rooms were en-suite with individual internet connections. The only thing I don't really like is sharing a bathroom but I was happy to share a kitchen and a living/common room. Living with others also has the added benefit of getting you out of your comfort zone and forcing you to be more sociable, which honestly I wasn't before I went to university. But I'm glad I lived with others in those early years and I stay in touch with some of them even though they've returned to their home countries or have moved abroad.
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    I live alone while at university, but I don't think it is for everyone.

    I don't regret it at all because I am not a very sociable person. I like going out for meals, cinema, etc with my friends, then being able to go home to my own space where I can fully relax. I also think living alone has helped me achieve my good results for first year.

    Have you had much experience of being by yourself? If you are an introvert like myself, you will love it. Otherwise, you might get really lonely and hate it.

    Feel free to ask me any questions.
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    I think it largely depends on your personality. I can see how it might be lonely for some people, but I'd have loved to have been able to live by myself at uni (a horrible first year in halls didn't help). I'm not hugely sociable, I don't really get lonely tbh, and when I do go out I like to have a sanctuary I can come home to, but I haven't been able to afford it.

    I've gone for the next best thing as much as I can, I lived with two similarly quiet people in second year and apart from occasionally having a cuppa and a chat with one of my housemates, we almost only ever saw each other in passing, and since then I've lived with my sister and we're very similar, so it's almost like we live alone but in the same flat :p:

    I think I'd definitely live by myself if I had the money; I'm really struggling to find somewhere for postgrad because I can't afford to live alone but so many houseshares are all about socialising with each other all the time. I don't want where I live to be one big round of socialising; I get enough of that everywhere else so I want it to be my lovely quiet space where I can unwind from the outside world. It's not quite the same when you have to retreat to your room to grab some alone time.
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    (Original post by kaidan_alenko)
    I just don't really like the idea of sharing a bathroom, kitchen, tv and internet connection with a bunch of strangers. I also can't imagine there'd be much privacy with 4 or 5 people sharing a flat. Perhaps I'm just not very sociable :/
    Bathroom and kitchen is always going to be an issue in terms of cleanliness (although I have to say it's taught me a lot about other people and how to deal with them, so it does have some life skill positives...) but I don't really see how the internet connection matters. If it's wireless you can all access it and split it, and I've never once had an issue of somebody using SO MUCH data all the time that it's slowed it down. Or whatever you're worried about. TV I think most students watch on their laptops anyway.

    I suppose the question is, how many spaces do you need to be private in? For me, I am private in my room. It's where I work, sleep, eat, watch TV and chill out. I do live in a tiny flat with no living room and no space to eat in the kitchen, admittedly, but you basically have a lot of privacy just with your own room. Unless you require private sessions in the kitchen or private moments in the hallway (and obviously a lock ensures privacy in the bathroom!) you'd be surprised how actually people aren't going to be trying to break the door down and sit in your room.

    My guess is that you'd be surprised how it is possible to live with other people but still have your own privacy. I'm a private person, I want to come home and relax and not be bothered by people, and I've never had an issue. You DO have a private space. And you don't have to be that sociable with your flatmates at all if you don't want to be. It's all your choice. However it's an experience living with others and it has got a lot of positives which I think you're overlooking in this quest for being the sole user of the toilet etc.
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    each to their own, but first year I would never live alone, you want to be out there gaining friends etc
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    (Original post by kaidan_alenko)
    I just don't really like the idea of sharing a bathroom, kitchen, tv and internet connection with a bunch of strangers. I also can't imagine there'd be much privacy with 4 or 5 people sharing a flat. Perhaps I'm just not very sociable :/
    If you're uni offers en suites in a room you could try and get one. Then you are sharing some parts of the flat but not all of it.

    I've heard of flats with 6 - 8 people so 4 -5 people isn't that bad. For 1st year I would definitely want to go into halls to help make friends.
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    Living on your own for the first year at least would be very isolating. The people I am closest to are in my flat apart from a couple of people that our flat has "adopted". Its great to be able to just walk down the hall and see your friends (or knock on the walls and yell). But I have also spent whole weekends without seeing them at all because I didn't feel like it. You can be as sociable as you want in halls really, on your own it will be much harder.
    Get an ensuite if possible, its a little thing but definitely makes me feel like I can shut myself away for the day if needs be.

    And yes, you come to uni for a degree but its a much more pleasant experience if you have friends to keep you company along the way.
 
 
 
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