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    I really like this girl for a while now
    But she has a boyfriend who lives in another country. (Long distance relationship 4+ yrs) She plans to marry him.

    I told her how I feel. She said that I already know she has a boyfriend and that she loves him and that I shouldn't be selfish.

    I said ok I'm sorry, but we can stay friends.

    I'm finding it very difficult. But I want to stay friends with her because we get on really well together and she considers me her close friend.

    I can't tell her how I feel again or it will ruin our friendship. I was already very close to ruining it the first time I told her. She said to me we can't be friends anymore because she doesn't want to see me sad. But I said to her don't worry I will be ok.

    But I'm really not ok.

    It's currently the summer holidays so I haven't seen her for 2 months and I won't see her until October.

    I know she loves somebody else and I should accept that but I am always thinking about her.

    I am always thinking what is she doing, how is she, etc. And I always get jealous and uncomfortable when she is talking to other guys. Why is that? How can I stop thinking like that? I know we are just friends but I get upset too easily. I over analyse every small thing and it's driving me insane.

    I really don't know what to do.

    Also, regarding her boyfriend, he is living in another country and they have only met once, yet they have been talking, skyping for 4yrs. I don't see them being together but she is determined she will.

    Can somebody offer some good advice as to what I should do?

    Bro, I feel you after reading this i just wanted to give you some support instead of nothing. I know what you're going through its difficult I know but if she says she loves him you have to respect that I hope you understand that and about being jealous, is it because maybe you don't talk to other girls as much? Man i dont know but i would say give it time try talking to some other girls bro goodluck
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