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    So this might sound a bit desperate but I thought I'd ask anyway.

    Most of my friends have guys wanting to talk to them or have a lot of guy friends, they got pictures with guys at prom and just socialised with them where as guys never really start conversations with me or even wanna be friends. I'm pretty confident, pretty however not extremely beautiful and I'm not really mean to people, just wanna know what I'm doing wrong? I'll text guys sometimes but they either won't reply or will talk for a while then end up giving up replying to me though I'm not exactly clingy, any tips?

    Weirdly I used to get along really well with guys a few years ago but I kind of changed my appearance since then (for the better in my opinion).

    I know this is pathetic but I thought it'd be better to just ask for some tips rather than moping over it so don't be too harsh, thanks!

    Also feel free to ask any questions cause this is making me so insecure
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    Seriously any help?
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    If you're looking for tips, a good one is to ask people about themselves. People love talking about themselves (this works for girls as well).
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    I don't think you need ask people about you, that's a little strange and will make you come across as insecure.
    I think in your place, you need to ask yourself "Are these people really people I'm comfortable around?" Are they people you socialise with?
    Maybe, they aren't your type of people. That sounds weird, but I hope you understand what I mean. Like I have trouble socialising with guys that I do not connect with easily, so I don't think there's a problem.
    Otherwise, if this is happening with every guy, then just take a step back and see what's going wrong? Maybe you need to find someone who you can click with

    Can I just ask, do you socialise much?


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    Hi.

    There you go, a male has just spoken to you. This thread is now a lie.
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    (Original post by SHINeexo)
    I don't think you need ask people about you, that's a little strange and will make you come across as insecure.
    I think in your place, you need to ask yourself "Are these people really people I'm comfortable around?" Are they people you socialise with?
    Maybe, they aren't your type of people. That sounds weird, but I hope you understand what I mean. Like I have trouble socialising with guys that I do not connect with easily, so I don't think there's a problem.
    Otherwise, if this is happening with every guy, then just take a step back and see what's going wrong? Maybe you need to find someone who you can click with

    Can I just ask, do you socialise much?


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    Yeah I'm actually out socialising most days but only with girls but thanks, this advice makes sense!
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    Leave your shell and speak to guys as well If they show disinterest then don't ever text them again, because you can do better than that. I'm sure along the way, you will find guys who are nice and will instantly click with you.

    Good luck!


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    Thanks for the advice guys! it's weird because I easily make friends with other girls, just not guys
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    Well, are you interesting to talk to? And, if you think you are, do you talk to people who would agree that you're interesting? If you're talking to people who have similar interests, you'd think conversation would just flow easily. But maybe that's not the case, idk.
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    From what you have told us it is a bit difficult to say. Generally the more friendly, approachable and confident a girl is the more you want to talk to them. So smile and be prepared to make the opening gambit on occasions. In terms of attractiveness, boosting feminine traits is what it's all about. Worth asking some friends to give you a bit of advice too.
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    You're not sad about the fact guys don't speak to you, you're sad that you don't have several guys to friendzone, string along and use for validation while you try to get the good-looking guy into bed. End of.

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    I'm definitely not fat haha

    I guess I could try to smile and look approachable more like you say


    And I guess I don't really know what guys like to talk about? I'm interesting but yeah I struggle
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    (Original post by Abstraction)
    You're not sad about the fact guys don't speak to you, you're sad that you don't have several guys to friendzone, string along and use for validation while you try to get the good-looking guy into bed. End of.

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    No I actually do want some guy friends or for at least guys to notice me in some kind of way...
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    From what you have told us it is a bit difficult to say. Generally the more friendly, approachable and confident a girl is the more you want to talk to them. So smile and be prepared to make the opening gambit on occasions. In terms of attractiveness, boosting feminine traits is what it's all about. Worth asking some friends to give you a bit of advice too.
    Agreed, you should definitely try to be friendly and smile a lot, to show interest you don't wanna stand there awkwardly and when they joke you just smile dully. Try to show interest as much as you can


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    (Original post by eemmmmaaaaa)
    I'm definitely not fat haha

    I guess I could try to smile and look approachable more like you say


    And I guess I don't really know what guys like to talk about? I'm interesting but yeah I struggle
    I have the same problem. I don't know what you're supposed to talk to boys about because obviously the stuff you talk about with girls won't appeal to them. If it's guys at school / college then it's easy to initiate conversation when you study the same subjects as each other. Also, if a guy ignores your text, don't try talking to him again unless he talks to you first. It's easier to just act like you're not interested.
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    (Original post by Petulia)
    I have the same problem. I don't know what you're supposed to talk to boys about because obviously the stuff you talk about with girls won't appeal to them. If it's guys at school / college then it's easy to initiate conversation when you study the same subjects as each other. Also, if a guy ignores your text, don't try talking to him again unless he talks to you first. It's easier to just act like you're not interested.
    Personally, I think it comes down to interest. If a guy is not interested in you, then he will not keep the conversation going, he will not reply to your text as much as you'd like. You have to accept that he is not interested. If a guy is interested then he will try keep the conversation going even if you're struggling with it. I think interest comes from appearance (sadly), the common things you may share, how well you click as friends etc. Many friendships also start with hate. Most of my friendships with guys have almost started with hate lol, so yeah I think it just depends on the guy really because all guys aren't the same so even if 20 guys ignore you, 1 will always be your friend I think you should speak to more people, you sound like you're in a circle with a few groups of friends. Try socialise with people you'd never thought you would speak to, it surprises you how well it turns ps. it's not always a bad thing to be the one to start a conversation!


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    I would suggest being more open and engaging in conversations more. Guys love talking about themselves (yet ironically they claim girls do that) so try to take an interest in what they do. Don't blame yourself if guys don't talk to you the way you hoped for them to, it can take a little bit of time.
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    (Original post by SHINeexo)
    Personally, I think it comes down to interest. If a guy is not interested in you, then he will not keep the conversation going, he will not reply to your text as much as you'd like. You have to accept that he is not interested. If a guy is interested then he will try keep the conversation going even if you're struggling with it. I think interest comes from appearance (sadly), the common things you may share, how well you click as friends etc. Many friendships also start with hate. Most of my friendships with guys have almost started with hate lol, so yeah I think it just depends on the guy really because all guys aren't the same so even if 20 guys ignore you, 1 will always be your friend I think you should speak to more people, you sound like you're in a circle with a few groups of friends. Try socialise with people you'd never thought you would speak to, it surprises you how well it turns ps. it's not always a bad thing to be the one to start a conversation!


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    yeah it is about appearance to a large extent but i dont think thats the OP's problem. you have to be truly ugly for guys not to be friends with you if you make the effort.
    she probably seems disinterested
    OP, a good technique is licking their arse: wow youre an amazing person is always one girls use.
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    (Original post by Harrie Lyons)
    yeah it is about appearance to a large extent but i dont think thats the OP's problem. you have to be truly ugly for guys not to be friends with you if you make the effort.
    she probably seems disinterested
    OP, a good technique is licking their arse: wow youre an amazing person is always one girls use.
    Yeah of course appearance isnt the major issue but it is one of the issues. It is sad, but a lot of guys simply do not approach girls because they aren't pretty (unless you're sat in class with them or at a workshop)
    Many guys are very friendly too, that's why she needs to seek friendship from different guys than those she's trying to be friends with right now.
    I would say a good technique is just to be yourself, and not arse lick anybody so they can like you.


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    (Original post by Harrie Lyons)
    yeah it is about appearance to a large extent but i dont think thats the OP's problem. you have to be truly ugly for guys not to be friends with you if you make the effort.
    she probably seems disinterested
    OP, a good technique is licking their arse: wow youre an amazing person is always one girls use.
    I think you could be right, I'll definitely try this thanks!
 
 
 
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