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    As the title says, really. I know it's a bit of a stupid question, but I'm in my first-ever relationship... I don't really know what's the norm, and I get a bit paranoid.
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    you don't have to always be talking. isn't that tiring?
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    I used to get really worried about not having things to talk about, but I reckon you know your relationship is strong when you just want each other's company and you don't have to talk - when even sitting together, in pretty much silence, doesn't feel awkward/uncomfortable

    So, in short, I reckon it's normal and should be embraced.
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    As the title says, really. I know it's a bit of a stupid question, but I'm in my first-ever relationship... I don't really know what's the norm, and I get a bit paranoid.
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    It's your first relationship, I say relax a little more. Just let the conversations flow out, don't force it otherwise things WILL become boring.
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    Nah I've never ran out of things to say to my partner and we've been together 5 yrs now and living together for 3 and a half. We obviously sit in silence sometimes while we are on our phones, just chilling etc but its not awkward in the slightest but it would be with other people. I think maybe its because we were best friends before going out so we already spoke pretty much all the time anyway. This is both our first relationship as well. I do find it hard to keep up a long convo with most other people though.

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    I've ran out plenty of times. A silence can be comfortable if you feel comfortable with the right person.
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    thanks for the reassurance... my anxiety just makes it difficult sometimes. when we run out of stuff to say (particularly on skype) i start to mentally spiral and think that it must be because i'm a really boring person and that we don't have much in common. it's not helped when he sort of points it out and says things like 'wow... conversation' though
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    My ex and I were long distance. We sometimes didn't have a lot to say via text or whatever but we could talk for hours about all sorts when we were together. I miss those chats.
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    I only find silences awkward with people I don't know that well and we are forced to make small talk. I can't imagine every feeling that way with a friend and especially not a partner.
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    Sometimes, but they also say that Silence is Golden!
    You won't always be talking about things. Obviously, if you never have anything to tell each other, or conversation is awkward, then you may not be cut out for each other - but otherwise it's just natural.
 
 
 
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