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    Im kinda new to this and need advice on how to handle this situation.. (we are 17 and 18)

    So, naturally, theres this girl. She lives 3 hours away.
    We have been talking (through messaging, phonecalls etc) for a few months blah blah you get where this is going..

    So I ask her if she wants to meet up with me for a date like thing. She says yes. She then cancels with a really weak excuse about needing to meet friends.

    Fine.

    Later that month, I do meet up with her (she was in my hometown to visit someone, so she mayaswell see me too) and we had a great time (kissed when I seen her off etc)
    She spent the next few days constantly messaging about how much she loved seeing me and talking about every minute detail of the day

    So I decide to play it cool, and casually slip in a request to meet up again some time in the future. She says she cant for the next 2 months. Why? Because she has work. A job which she does 3/4 days a week.

    I dont quite understand this. I dont want to come across as being controlling or whatever, but surely one day isnt too much hassle when you have a schedule that light.
    Im really confused. My immediate reaction is that she must not like me in that way, but then why did she go on about our one date for so long, constantly saying how much she loved it?

    Any ideas on what could be going on here? Should I play it cool or what?
    Im totally confused!


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    Well you're in quite the predicament, perhaps she might have other responsibilities that she doesn't want to tell you about and she's just calling it work just to summarise it


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    (Original post by Melodymacarthy)
    Well you're in quite the predicament, perhaps she might have other responsibilities that she doesn't want to tell you about and she's just calling it work just to summarise it


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    This is possible, but I dont think it is likely as she messages me throughout the day on her days off telling me how she is bored, in the house etc
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    She lives three hours away, she'll be travelling 6 hours in the day and that doesn't leave much time to be together if she visits for one day. You can always set up a date in 2 months time and skype, phone calls etc. She might be doing other stuff, you never know. Why don't you go and visit her on her days off?
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    You visit her. Chivalry is dead.

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    (Original post by purplelamp)
    She lives three hours away, she'll be travelling 6 hours in the day and that doesn't leave much time to be together if she visits for one day. You can always set up a date in 2 months time and skype, phone calls etc. She might be doing other stuff, you never know. Why don't you go and visit her on her days off?
    Well not exactly 3 hours journey time. We can meet in the city, meaning that we both only need to travel about an hour and a bit (provided I get the faster train)
 
 
 
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