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    So since I started going to this school year 9 I have had a group of friends but there has been a bit of a massive argument with one of my friends; she got a boyfriend who I don't like and feel uncomfortable with and they always hang around the group kissing and feeling each other up and I'm in a long distance relationship and I miss my BF all the time but when I remember it makes me sad and for some reason they were a constant reminder and several of my other friends don't like him either and I asked for me and them if it would be possible if they spent some time away from the group so we can go back to the way it was and not feel like there is a massive pink elephant in the room that is sitting on everyone's face. But I said if they could not do that then I would leave the group because it got unbearable for me, so she then picked him over me. She then and another friend went and told the rest of the group that I had gone and left because I wanted her and him to break up and she wouldnt do what I said so I left which is a lie. But I really miss some of my friends from that group and I think it is selfish of her to pick him over me and the rest of the group I feel our friendship is over as I hate the person she has become but I do want some of my friends back what should I do.
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    No paragraphs; the word 'awks' used...

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    It's none of your business who your friends go out with; if you don't like them then fine, but you should be happy that your friend is happy, rather than wanting them to break up. You tried to get this friend to spend time away from the group, then when they didn't you left; you can't have a part-time friend whom you are friends with on only your terms, it doesn't work like that and you have been very selfish. Throwing a hissy-fit and leaving shows that you couldn't bare not getting your own way, so you have given another reason why these people shouldn't be friends with you.
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    I never said anything about wanting them to break up. It's not her spending time away from the group that I want I just don't see why they have to paw at each other in front of everyone can they not do that somewhere else. I have not thrown a hissy fit, so you would rather I spend time with them which I find very painful and have to deal with someone I don't like and am not comfortable in a place where I am meant to feel safe and happy. Instead of criticizing tell me what exactly you'd have me do
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    Well, you wrote that in a rush. Okay, explain to her you don't like all the PDA they are showing for whatever reason it is. Obviously, it would be a bit much if you pushed her to never hug or kiss him around you but tell them to try and avoid being touchy-feely- it can make people uncomfortable. Also, I have to remind you that even if you don't like her boyfriend, she does and maybe he likes her back too; I am getting a hint of jealousy about this. I think you need to sit down and talk about it with her especially since you might have offended her earlier.
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    I'd have you make more of an effort to be around your friend and her boyfriend. I don't possibly see how it can be 'very painful' for you that your friend is happy; they are going to do things together around other people and from what you've said it doesn't seem like anyone else has a problem with it. You need to grow up a bit and realise everything isn't about you and whatever feelings you invent.
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    You should confront your friend about the situation at hand. Tell them what you think and work things out from there.
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    I never said anything about wanting them to break up. It's not her spending time away from the group that I want I just don't see why they have to paw at each other in front of everyone can they not do that somewhere else. I have not thrown a hissy fit, so you would rather I spend time with them which I find very painful and have to deal with someone I don't like and am not comfortable in a place where I am meant to feel safe and happy. Instead of criticizing tell me what exactly you'd have me do
    You have the problem with them. Therefore, YOU should be the one who spends 'time away from the group'. You have no right to tell someone else to go on their own. It's your problem, not theirs.
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    I am in a way jealous which is why it is painful for me. I am happy for her don't doubt that, but I was the one with the biggest problem but I was not the only one. We were a group of 8 and now 7 but the boys 3 of them don't like her BF and don't talk to him and have set themselves away they have not left but it is not the same anymore. Her BF has now left the school, which decreases the problem slightly.
    I know you think I am being selfish that's fine, hate me all you like but for me there was no other option, and I do not regret my decision, and I know this will seem to you like another excuse but we won't be friends again and I'm not sure I want to be friends with her again for other reasons. But it's not her I'm concerned about it is the others I want to spend time with them so do I see them away from school or individually or just try to move on and stick with the new friends I've made.
 
 
 
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