If polygamy became legal and accepted tomorrow, would you do it?

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Reply 20

iamu

One for cooking, one for cleaning, one to look after the kids and one for miscellaneous duties

Reply 21

ubi1

Original post by iamu

One for cooking, one for cleaning, one to look after the kids and one for miscellaneous duties

That's what am saying it would make life a lot easier. :tongue:

Reply 22

Asmeeta

Original post by iamu

One for cooking, one for cleaning, one to look after the kids and one for miscellaneous duties

It seems that you badly need a maid! :smug:

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Reply 23

iamu

Original post by Asmeeta

It seems that you badly need a maid! :smug:

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same thing, no?

Reply 24

username1456920

Definitely not. I wouldn't want to share or be shared by my significant other(s).

Reply 25

Asmeeta

Original post by iamu

same thing, no?

No, its not!

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Reply 26

BlackMagicV

No, I don't want to be shared. I had multiple people trying to pursue me at once, and that was annoying enough (and difficult, as I only wanted to be with one of them) and I would hate to have to share my boyfriend with anyone else.
I think it can work well for some people though :smile:

Reply 27

AyCaramba

Original post by Rlove95

Never. The thought of sharing someone or being shared is horrible.

Feel bad for women who are one of multiple wives

Reply 28

AyCaramba

Original post by laylarose

No. I wouldn't change the way I want my relationship setup to be like purely because it became legal. I wouldn't want my significant other to be shared by any other people other than myself. Plus I have trouble getting even one person to like me, let alone four or five! :lol:

Same right! I don't know how it works so well in other countries, they must have pure game haha

Reply 29

AyCaramba

Original post by clonedmemories

I have friends of mine in poly relationships and I've seen that they can work really well for people. On the assumption that the definition of polygamy here includes both polygyny and polyandry, I might consider it if I ever ended up in a poly relationship myself (to which, at the moment, I would say I have no inclination either way). So maybe, is my answer.

Ah its for some but not for everyone, i personally couldn't do it but hey its an age old tradition in some parts of the world

Reply 30

AyCaramba

Original post by iheartplums

I doubt it. One relationship is difficult enough

I think that in certain countries poverty / class probably has a large part to play in polygamous relationships. I can't imagine a woman from a wealthy background committing to a relationship where she is one of 4 or even 2 wives. On the other hand, it seems more likely that a woman who is from a poorer background, with no real prospects in life, would agree to being 1 of however many number of wives if it meant that she would be provided for and financially stable.

I know it happened around the middle east after wars when there was a lack of men, think that's why its allowed in Islam so I understand the reasoning there

Reply 31

AyCaramba

Thanks for the replies, really interesting to see the different opinions, keep 'em coming

Reply 32

clonedmemories

Original post by AyCaramba

Ah its for some but not for everyone, i personally couldn't do it but hey its an age old tradition in some parts of the world

Indeed - only 18% of the world's societies (I believe) are prescriptively monogamous, even though there's also a high percentage of monogamous couples in societies which allow polygamy also.

It's lovely spending time with my friends who are in poly relationships (at one point I was in a room with 5 people, all of whom are dating each other in a variety of combinations!) and it was just adorable, so it's nice to see it working, and to talk to them about it. But they're not without difficulties, and certainly not for everyone :smile:

Reply 33

WelshBluebird

Personally, it wouldn't be my thing. I think I'd get way too jealous about the time and effort being spent on the other partners rather than myself.

I do think people need to understand there is a clear distinction with the kind of issue.
You get the people who try to push their partner into it just so they can get more sex etc.
And you can the people who do not try to force it, who try to live that lifestyle with others within it, who genuinely enjoy the dynamics of such a lifestyle and who aren't just wanting to bone more people.

Original post by clonedmemories

It's lovely spending time with my friends who are in poly relationships (at one point I was in a room with 5 people, all of whom are dating each other in a variety of combinations!) and it was just adorable, so it's nice to see it working, and to talk to them about it. But they're not without difficulties, and certainly not for everyone :smile:

One thing that probably helps is in general, people who live alternative lifestyles (including being in poly relationships, and in others such as d/s etc) are more open and accepting. Traits which most of society could do with more of.