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    Hi guys, I'm feeling really unloved by my mother and I'm wondering if anyone can give me some advice or has been in a similar situation. I'm 19 years old and I'm going to university in September. For the last five years my mother has been suffering from depression due to divorce with my dad. Since then, she's been very cold and negligent towards myself and y siblings. She's constantly rude and nothing we do is EVER good enough. She constantly calls me the laziest boy she's ever met (I'm on my gap year), although I worked in Austria for 5 months this winter. I'm sick and tired of her being cruel and feel that, at this rate, I'll have no interest in keeping in contact once I leave home - please, does anyone have any advice on what to do? I've tried talking about it with her but she claims I'm overreacting. Thank you.
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    Give up. When you go to uni just forget her.
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    (Original post by MrBean1994)
    Hi guys, I'm feeling really unloved by my mother and I'm wondering if anyone can give me some advice or has been in a similar situation. I'm 19 years old and I'm going to university in September. For the last five years my mother has been suffering from depression due to divorce with my dad. Since then, she's been very cold and negligent towards myself and y siblings. She's constantly rude and nothing we do is EVER good enough. She constantly calls me the laziest boy she's ever met (I'm on my gap year), although I worked in Austria for 5 months this winter. I'm sick and tired of her being cruel and feel that, at this rate, I'll have no interest in keeping in contact once I leave home - please, does anyone have any advice on what to do? I've tried talking about it with her but she claims I'm overreacting. Thank you.
    Is there anyone she's uh... Less rude to shall we say... That you're related to, eg a sibling? Perhaps you could ask them to talk to her.

    If not, although it may seem harsh I think the best thing to do would be to tell her that if she keeps treating you that way you won't want to stay in contact with her. It may seem harsh, but it might bring her to realise how she's treating you
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    Sounds like mymum. When you leave shell go nuts and want you home constantly.
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    (Original post by AdamCee)
    Is there anyone she's uh... Less rude to shall we say... That you're related to, eg a sibling? Perhaps you could ask them to talk to her.

    If not, although it may seem harsh I think the best thing to do would be to tell her that if she keeps treating you that way you won't want to stay in contact with her. It may seem harsh, but it might bring her to realise how she's treating you
    I wish, she treats my sisters & I equally poorly. She had a terrible relationship with her mother so perhaps she's just doing to us what her mother did to her. I don't know. They didn't have a good relationship and she was mortified when she passed away last year, I thought that might make her realise how important it is to keep family close. Thanks for your advice
 
 
 
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