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    Hello All that decide to view this post. I am not allowes to wear western clothing E.G: Dresses, skirts, tops,trousers, jeans. Only allowed to wear pakistani clothes and its embarrassing foinf to friends house in those clothes when they wear western clothes. Wheni go out I wear an abayya which is a full length loose garment like a maxi dress with full sleevs and I wear a hijab. I love wearing it but I feel its impractical and limiting as I am currently applying for jobs in retail and feel like if I went to an interview or induction day with abayya on they woukd look at me weirdly and it may not be suitable to wear to work. I said to my mum that I may have to wear tdousers and a shirt to work so what shal I do. She was like.. I don't know. My parents are iffy about western clothing and my grandad who lives with us is strongly against it. I own random leggings and tops but nothing I can piece together to wear out and I would NEVER be allowed. Everyone thinks it is extremely immodest and my suster who is younger than me is sometimes allowed to wear dresaes and skinny trousers in the house bit jot me as she gets told off for trying to act likr a non Muslim. So I dunno what to do. I really want to reject offer of an interview as I feel I will look so informal and unprofessional wearjng an abayya while all the other ppl there will wear smart suits and all them sorts of clothes...yes I ramble on a lot. Btw this has been going on for about six or seven years
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    Hi !

    I know exactly how you feel sister ! First of all remember we are here to impress Allah and not the people, if you listen to your parents I guarantee you in sha allah Allah will be so proud of u he will get you a job ! In sha allah

    Secondly , If you are really not happy then you should talk to your parents say you want to wear dress that goes past your knees and it will be baggy , even show them what it looks like and tell them your problem , if they don't listen then don't worry darling Allah will help you soon to feel better.

    Take care <3
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    Hi! As someone whose trained people in retail once getting the job, I understand what retail employees look for and I can guarantee you that you won't be discriminated by what your wearing if it's regarding your religion. I can't lie to you some retail chains want their employees to dress in their product. But this doesn't relate to every retailer. I think if you get an interview, tell them that even though you can't dress the latest trends due to your religion, you do understand them and follow the latest trends, maybe even say that you try to dress in the seasons colours and from reading the latest fashion magazines etc etc you can pick out what looks good on people. Pick out some current designers such as Barjis who was in London fashion week that specialises in eastern cultural values and see how they put together outfits that will definitely be suitable for interviews and maybe even point that out in your interview. Good luck and be yourself and I'm sure you'll be fine!


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    Your parents sound very strict :O

    Religious clothing might be modest but other styles of clothing can equally be modest. You can wear a nice dress that goes down to the knees, with leggings and maybe a cardigan. Maybe if you wear something along those lines your family can see that Western clothing can equally be modest.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello All that decide to view this post. I am not allowes to wear western clothing E.G: Dresses, skirts, tops,trousers, jeans. Only allowed to wear pakistani clothes and its embarrassing foinf to friends house in those clothes when they wear western clothes. Wheni go out I wear an abayya which is a full length loose garment like a maxi dress with full sleevs and I wear a hijab. I love wearing it but I feel its impractical and limiting as I am currently applying for jobs in retail and feel like if I went to an interview or induction day with abayya on they woukd look at me weirdly and it may not be suitable to wear to work. I said to my mum that I may have to wear tdousers and a shirt to work so what shal I do. She was like.. I don't know. My parents are iffy about western clothing and my grandad who lives with us is strongly against it. I own random leggings and tops but nothing I can piece together to wear out and I would NEVER be allowed. Everyone thinks it is extremely immodest and my suster who is younger than me is sometimes allowed to wear dresaes and skinny trousers in the house bit jot me as she gets told off for trying to act likr a non Muslim. So I dunno what to do. I really want to reject offer of an interview as I feel I will look so informal and unprofessional wearjng an abayya while all the other ppl there will wear smart suits and all them sorts of clothes...yes I ramble on a lot. Btw this has been going on for about six or seven years
    You can dress modestly in western clothes though.. do your parents not understand that?

    Trousers/Jeans don't have to be tight, tops don't have to be short sleeved, tops can cover your bottom..
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    Can you not reach a compromise? For example, for an interview, wear a knee length skirt with opaque tights, a blouse and a cardigan?
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    To Those saying that western clothing can be modest yeah I totally agree but with my parents its just the fact tjat tje clothes are western that automatically makes them wrong to wear. And my grandad has very old fashioned views which makes it worse. He wpuld be crazily devestated if I wore western clothes as I am the eldest so my little sister is let off a little. He is the most strict and tbh if my parents let me wear western clothes he would probably be angry at them too lol. I dunno whats gonna happen. I just want to give up searching for a job tbh. Its so difficult seeing ppl dressed nicely around you and sitting with your friends while they check out lastest trends online when you know you aren't allowed any of that. I don't even own a pair of jeans. Jeans are like taboo in my household. Man I sound so mega lame haha
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    To Those saying that western clothing can be modest yeah I totally agree but with my parents its just the fact tjat tje clothes are western that automatically makes them wrong to wear. And my grandad has very old fashioned views which makes it worse. He wpuld be crazily devestated if I wore western clothes as I am the eldest so my little sister is let off a little. He is the most strict and tbh if my parents let me wear western clothes he would probably be angry at them too lol. I dunno whats gonna happen. I just want to give up searching for a job tbh. Its so difficult seeing ppl dressed nicely around you and sitting with your friends while they check out lastest trends online when you know you aren't allowed any of that. I don't even own a pair of jeans. Jeans are like taboo in my household. Man I sound so mega lame haha
    Don't care about what your grand father thinks.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    To Those saying that western clothing can be modest yeah I totally agree but with my parents its just the fact tjat tje clothes are western that automatically makes them wrong to wear. And my grandad has very old fashioned views which makes it worse. He wpuld be crazily devestated if I wore western clothes as I am the eldest so my little sister is let off a little. He is the most strict and tbh if my parents let me wear western clothes he would probably be angry at them too lol. I dunno whats gonna happen. I just want to give up searching for a job tbh. Its so difficult seeing ppl dressed nicely around you and sitting with your friends while they check out lastest trends online when you know you aren't allowed any of that. I don't even own a pair of jeans. Jeans are like taboo in my household. Man I sound so mega lame haha
    You are just assuming that they won't give you a job because of what you wear. I have certainly been served by muslim women wearing what you describe in shops, so it won't be a problem everywhere you look.
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    Hi! As someone whose trained people in retail once getting the job, I understand what retail employees look for and I can guarantee you that you won't be discriminated by what your wearing if it's regarding your religion. I can't lie to you some retail chains want their employees to dress in their product. But this doesn't relate to every retailer. I think if you get an interview, tell them that even though you can't dress the latest trends due to your religion, you do understand them and follow the latest trends, maybe even say that you try to dress in the seasons colours and from reading the latest fashion magazines etc etc you can pick out what looks good on people. Pick out some current designers such as Barjis who was in London fashion week that specialises in eastern cultural values and see how they put together outfits that will definitely be suitable for interviews and maybe even point that out in your interview. Good luck and be yourself and I'm sure you'll be fine!


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    Thank you for replying :-) I feel a bit reassured but still feel that I would look really stupid and if an employer came across me and another similar candidate, the other would be chosen for the reason of dress...
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    Damn I have the same problem and it's so infuriating!! Jeans are illegal in our household and we have to constantly wear stupid old paki things that r so ugly!! I hate it I iwsh my parents would let me wear proper clothes!!!!!!
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    I would like to recommend you that visit any Pakistani Dresses or Indian clothing forum in UK because you can find a wide range of styles in it as well. There are many updated clothing brands in these area who can provide beautiful dresses to in good styles as you are thinking. Once you should try them online for shopping.
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    What I dont get is why people would emigrate to a different country and actively be against those people's cultures/not allow their kids to partake or blend into that society. This is not intended to be racist at all, but I think its really ****ed up - They are NOT in pakistan, and to be living in a "western country" enjoying its luxuries but be actively against western ideals, clothing and culture etc is racist and immoral imo. They should have stayed in pakistan if they hate and refuse to accept western lifestyle that much.

    If they live here, they should have made it first priority to ensure their children are able to partake and be a part of the society they chose to emigrate to, instead of forcing you to feel like outsiders.

    Imagine if it was the other way around, westerners in pakistan refusing to let their kids were pakistan clothes or partake in the culture.
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    Hi, it's easy to say were not back home anymore but the thing is more often than not the parents move to areas with people from similar back grounds. Does that make sense? My parents moved to an area where there are so many East Africans so they have their own community and similarly, people from Pakistan move to areas that have lots of pakistanis so even though they are not in Pakistan anymore it's not really like London either.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello All that decide to view this post. I am not allowes to wear western clothing E.G: Dresses, skirts, tops,trousers, jeans. Only allowed to wear pakistani clothes and its embarrassing foinf to friends house in those clothes when they wear western clothes.
    Hi, so have you discussed with your family about which western clothes you could possibly wear as there is quite a plethora of different kinds to choose from ? Cowboy hats are a MUST have along with a spurs, but that entirely depends on whether you are going to mount a horse (I assume you have one) in order to get to their house effectively. I'm not sure pakistani culture has a real stigma with western clothes as it generally quite a niche fashion these days. You definitely have a wild group of friends though and that it totally cool!
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    You need to have an open and frank discussion with your parents. Assert your right.

    A few years ago my parents were against me wearing revealing clothes in case relatives or family friends took issue with it.

    I fought back. Hard.

    Now they come down like a brick wall on anyone that complains about what I wear.
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    mine is a similar case .so i am 14 gonna be 15 in 2 months and am not allowed to wear western clothes.so I live in hk and i am a pakistani.i always have to wear those pakistani suits and stuff .ok so when i was younger i never ghought of it but now i am 15 ..i wont say i am embarrased but the thing is that salwar kameez(thepakistani clothes)limits u in loys of ways for example as i am a sporty girl and like to run and jump around but the thing with these clothes is that they come with a duppata and even when u go out more than 90 %time goes to fixing it amd its actually really embarrassinb cux all my friends wear western and am not allowed plus people of my age think i am older than them cuz of the clothes i even have experienced some younger kids calling me aunty and thats when it triggered me the most so i started complaining to my parents about it but whenever i talk to her she think am getting influenced by my peers and getting spoiled...so i have gaven up and as i mentioned that i lived in hk so here we have skl uniforms so when ever i need to go out to get something i usually go after skl in my uniform while most of my classmates go home and change and whem i come home i just stay at home amd dont go anywhere which makes it worse cux sometimes my mom asks me to do grocery shopping and i constamtly deny and even cry to noy go out so she thinks am spoiled and so she usually asks me to do most of the housework and to avoid letting my mom wanting me to go down ti get something i usually dont come home eatly fro skl i dont feel good to be home i even cry a lot in fact i am crying right now this has also caused my self esteem to be extremely low and dont ask me to talk to my parents cuz that realky doesnt help trust me ..i have tried but instead of trying to understand me they yell at me and make my confidence lower cuz of this my mom lately started to not trust me at all which makes me tear up a lot and wanting to have my friends parents as mine ...over that the thing that triggers me the most is that they allow my brothers to wear western clotjing and when questioned they said thers a differrence in boys and girls ...i know am to young to have this much stuff in me but i havs latey tried looking through thier perspective ,cuz most of our pakistanj aunties are gossio queens even your own relatives ,if they see u wearing western they start spreafing rumours amd i think my mom doesnt wants to be a victim of that and thus doesnt wants to loose her respect and stuff and actually quite a few years back i had a cousin who wore western and had boyfriends and stuff so i thjnm my mom is afraid i ll do ths same but trusf the one or two times that i wore western i was fully covered so i dong understand her concerns ...so i wore a black pants with a shirt long enough to cover my butt.plz help me .
 
 
 
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