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    Hi everyone! I've sadly just gotten over a girl who didn't want to be my friend or girlfriend for that matter, but there's another girl in my sixth form. We've brought it to each other's attention that we don't know each other very well (over messenger) but the problem is that she's really smart and intelligent and quite far out of my league, and even so, her friends are very popular and I'm not popular at all. How do I just go up and talk to her without making her feel uncomfortable? Also, I'm hoping to form not just a friendship but a relationship too, but I am willing to take it slow. How do I go about it?

    Any advice would be very much appreciated.
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    Don't let 'popularity' stop you! Chat casually online for a bit; when you see her, say hi. Sit with her and chat if she's on her own. Talk to her more and more. If its gonna happen, it'll happen naturally. Don't force it. Just be yourself
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    You need to be confident in yourself. You need to have a good, likeable personality. You have to be good at talking and making conversation. And you have to have something interesting or funny to say and to talk about. If you can do all of that, then you're in.
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    Leave it. Focus on your work instead.
    You'll go to uni soon and probably have to break up with her, or suffer not flirting with other girls at university, only to find out she's cheated on you, and its too late.
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    (Original post by holson)
    Don't let 'popularity' stop you! Chat casually online for a bit; when you see her, say hi. Sit with her and chat if she's on her own. Talk to her more and more. If its gonna happen, it'll happen naturally. Don't force it. Just be yourself
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    She usually isn't on her own so that's a setback


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    (Original post by kumon)
    Leave it. Focus on your work instead.
    You'll go to uni soon and probably have to break up with her, or suffer not flirting with other girls at university, only to find out she's cheated on you, and its too late.
    We both intend to go to London universities



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    (Original post by Stinkum)
    You need to be confident in yourself. You need to have a good, likeable personality. You have to be good at talking and making conversation. And you have to have something interesting or funny to say and to talk about. If you can do all of that, then you're in.
    Yeah. None of those are my strong point


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    (Original post by kumon)
    Leave it. Focus on your work instead.
    You'll go to uni soon and probably have to break up with her, or suffer not flirting with other girls at university, only to find out she's cheated on you, and its too late.
    Life experience?
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    (Original post by Archurus23)
    We both intend to go to London universities

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    You're what 16/17? You have a whole life ahead of you, stop worrying about silly girls that you will break up with.

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    Life experience?
    Personally? No. But I hear it from friends in university and people with regrets.
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    (Original post by kumon)
    You're what 16/17? You have a whole life ahead of you, stop worrying about silly girls that you will break up with.


    Personally? No. But I hear it from friends in university and people with regrets.
    Alright but surely it's ok to try right?


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    (Original post by Archurus23)
    Alright but surely it's ok to try right?


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    no get grades before girls, then you'll get plenty of models and no heart break either.
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    -Raise your head

    -Take a deep breath

    -Walk through those obstacles (her friends)

    -Say hi

    These four steps will definitely get you talking to her.
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    (Original post by Stinkum)
    You need to be confident in yourself. You need to have a good, likeable personality. You have to be good at talking and making conversation. And you have to have something interesting or funny to say and to talk about. If you can do all of that, then you're in.
    This pretty much sums it up quite nicely^

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    (Original post by kumon)
    no get grades before girls, then you'll get plenty of models and no heart break either.
    Plenty of models?


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    (Original post by Mystery Me)
    -Raise your head

    -Take a deep breath

    -Walk through those obstacles (her friends)

    -Say hi

    These four steps will definitely get you talking to her.
    Thank you


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    (Original post by Archurus23)
    Alright but surely it's ok to try right?


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    There is no harm in trying, but don't make a big deal out of it if it doesn't work out. Infact, i recommend that you actually go for it, if all else fails then at least you will know where you stand. Things like this are great for building character.

    but don't stress about it too much, after all you are going to London where the population is so diverse. So Im sure you will find plenty of eye candy there and then, you will look back at this girl wondering what all the fuss was about.

    By the way nobody can ever be out of your league. Look at Beyonce & Jay Z how the hell did that happen! smile, look your best, and have a decent personality...and that should be good enough.
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    (Original post by Archurus23)
    Hi everyone! I've sadly just gotten over a girl who didn't want to be my friend or girlfriend for that matter, but there's another girl in my sixth form. We've brought it to each other's attention that we don't know each other very well (over messenger) but the problem is that she's really smart and intelligent and quite far out of my league, and even so, her friends are very popular and I'm not popular at all. How do I just go up and talk to her without making her feel uncomfortable? Also, I'm hoping to form not just a friendship but a relationship too, but I am willing to take it slow. How do I go about it?

    Any advice would be very much appreciated.

    What do you have in common?
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    (Original post by LarissaN)
    There is no harm in trying, but don't make a big deal out of it if it doesn't work out. Infact, i recommend that you actually go for it, if all else fails then at least you will know where you stand. Things like this are great for building character.

    but don't stress about it too much, after all you are going to London where the population is so diverse. So Im sure you will find plenty of eye candy there and then, you will look back at this girl wondering what all the fuss was about.

    By the way nobody can ever be out of your league. Look at Beyonce & Jay Z how the hell did that happen! smile, look your best, and have a decent personality...and that should be good enough.
    Thank you. We already live in London. Also I'm a nice guy but I'm not confident because I'm not smart, sporty or popular


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    What do you have in common?
    We do the same subjects


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    (Original post by Archurus23)
    We do the same subjects


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    Is that it? There must be something else for you to feel attracted to her.
 
 
 
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