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I don't like people touching me

I'm not a touchy-feely person and it annoys me so much when people touch me without asking. I know it may sound odd, but I just get really upset when someone touches my face without asking or gets too close to me. Someone was reading something over my shoulder the other day and it was driving me crazy, I was reading the newspaper and it felt like he was invading my personal space; I could feel his face too close to me and it made me so uncomfortable. This has nothing to do with the fact that he's male or anything, it was just actually feeling a presence there. I didn't like it.

I also hate spending time with people for too long. I really love my personal space and prefer to do things on my own and people don't seem to understand this. I'm not a social recluse or anything but I find that even after spending a few hours with the same people I have to go spend some time on my own because I start to feel panicky and depressed if I don't.

Is it weird to be like this or does anyone else feel the same way?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

Before anyone mentions it: yes I did mess the thread title up!

Reply 2

History_is...

6

Lol bout the title! and I am a very touchy feely person, but only when it suits me! i cannot stand people reading over my shoulder, or touching me without me giving them permission, but at the same time i often hug people to greet them, and kiss my friends, and generally am fine with it when I initiate it! Its odd, and really unpleasant when you dont want it! have you tried just asking people to take and step back because you aren't comfortable?

Reply 3

lala_land

Can't say i identify, but your definatly not alone, i have a freind like this. Do you not like to be touch feely with anyone, or just people who you don't know to well/aren't close enough to yet?

Reply 4

Perfectly_Imperfect

17

yeah, I get what you mean totally,

no advice really, but I understand what you mean xxx

Reply 5

stegrier

2

i know how you feel, it's not weird unless it gets to the extreme and you probably aren't there yet.

you'll have to loosen up abit i guess.
i know its easier said than done but, that's the best advice i can give you

try to open up abit, try to make small talks with people etc, it will help you relax more etc and don't mind other's company (even strangers).
again, easier said than done. the only way to change is to change your psychology so.

/me pokes anonymous

Anonymous

I'm not a touchy-feely person and it annoys me so much when people touch me without asking. I know it may sound odd, but I just get really upset when someone touches my face without asking or gets too close to me. Someone was reading something over my shoulder the other day and it was driving me crazy, I was reading the newspaper and it felt like he was invading my personal space; I could feel his face too close to me and it made me so uncomfortable. This has nothing to do with the fact that he's male or anything, it was just actually feeling a presence there. I didn't like it.

I also hate spending time with people for too long. I really love my personal space and prefer to do things on my own and people don't seem to understand this. I'm not a social recluse or anything but I find that even after spending a few hours with the same people I have to go spend some time on my own because I start to feel panicky and depressed if I don't.

Is it weird to be like this or does anyone else feel the same way?

Its not weird at all, and if it makes you feel uncomfortable tell them so if you haven't already.
Alot of people prefer there own personal space some more than others, im sure your friends like it sometimes to maybe not so much.
I love my own space sometimes

Reply 8

Mangaroo

12

yeah a lot of my friends feel like that, including me, this one guy (unfortunately going to same uni as me) doesnt know the meaning of personal space, a sort of Sam from big brother, really gets on our nerves, but we let him have it :biggrin:

Reply 9

generalebriety

16

OP: Have a look into Asperger's Syndrome, it might be what you're on about. :smile:

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

I know what you mean, it's okay if it's someone your really close to hugs you or something, but if someone you barely know starts getting REALLY close then it's just a case of back-off!

Reply 11

unfinished sympathy

15

Anonymous

I'm not a touchy-feely person and it annoys me so much when people touch me without asking. I know it may sound odd, but I just get really upset when someone touches my face without asking or gets too close to me. Someone was reading something over my shoulder the other day and it was driving me crazy, I was reading the newspaper and it felt like he was invading my personal space; I could feel his face too close to me and it made me so uncomfortable. This has nothing to do with the fact that he's male or anything, it was just actually feeling a presence there. I didn't like it.

I also hate spending time with people for too long. I really love my personal space and prefer to do things on my own and people don't seem to understand this. I'm not a social recluse or anything but I find that even after spending a few hours with the same people I have to go spend some time on my own because I start to feel panicky and depressed if I don't.

Is it weird to be like this or does anyone else feel the same way?

i hate being hugged and kissed! i think its so false unless its family. i mean everyday i used to get kissed or hugged and i just dont know how to react to that from people who i class as acquaintences. Its worse over here- you cant leave a bar without having to kiss someone!

Reply 12

lil_sweetie

1

Anonymous

I'm not a touchy-feely person and it annoys me so much when people touch me without asking. I know it may sound odd, but I just get really upset when someone touches my face without asking or gets too close to me. Someone was reading something over my shoulder the other day and it was driving me crazy, I was reading the newspaper and it felt like he was invading my personal space; I could feel his face too close to me and it made me so uncomfortable. This has nothing to do with the fact that he's male or anything, it was just actually feeling a presence there. I didn't like it.

I also hate spending time with people for too long. I really love my personal space and prefer to do things on my own and people don't seem to understand this. I'm not a social recluse or anything but I find that even after spending a few hours with the same people I have to go spend some time on my own because I start to feel panicky and depressed if I don't.

Is it weird to be like this or does anyone else feel the same way?

You sound a lot like me, especially when it comes to spending time with people for too long. I'm touchy-feely with my closest friends - only with people who I feel completely comfortable with, and this is very few. I can't stand it when people crowd me or get in my personal space. I usually just say 'Hey get out of my space!' in a jokey way so they're not offended but enough so they know I mean it :wink:

It's definitely not weird - some people need to be around people all the time, some are happier on their own. Like you, I'm not a social recluse and am always happy spending time with my friends - but I have to have time to myself, to do my own thing and just to clear my head really!

Don't worry - you're most definitely not alone here!

Reply 13

Juwel

18

It's not weird, I'm quite the same in hating any invasion of personal space. It's probably just rather guarded and untrusting. Though I have to say if someone well-intentioned touches you, let yourself feel their warmth. We like to be touched, much like pets like being stroked. Perhaps the excessively sexual nature of the world has messed us up and made us all wary of an otherwise nice display of warmth and feeling.

Case in point: the innuendous jokes made about the thread title.

Reply 14

BullYardBill

I'm the same too so don't worry. It gets a bit ridiculous sometime like I jolt when i'm touched unexpectedly. I'm not particularly bothered by it and people know I like my own personal space. I think I'm a pretty normal person in other aspects and its not a big issue, so dont worry.

Reply 15

Anonymous #3

yeh i know what you mean....when ive spent alot of time with my friends i cant wait to get away from them (not in a harsh way, i just need my space). sometimes, for instance, in these hols they have want to do something everyday and this is just too much for me.

Reply 16

squigaletta

i used to be just like this, but about a year ago it started to fade, now im really not so fussed, i cut my hair quite dramatically and had to get used to every1 poking at it, since then ive been ok

Reply 17

slk999

15

no one likes other people randomly touching you. it's a gross invasion of privacy. i'd just move away very quickly. if it's a friend then it can be slightly diplomatically challenging, but just tell them about it.

Reply 18

Cocoa

12

i like ppl touching me :biggrin:

hehehe

Reply 19

slk999

15

AnnaKatharina

i like ppl touching me :biggrin:

hehehe

I don't like people touching me

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