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    If you're at uni or currently in the application process, how much influence did your parents have on your decision?

    Did you talk to them about where you were planning to apply to - or the course you were thinking of doing?

    Did they have more influence on you than other people - such as your teachers and careers adviser? If so, what advice did they give you?

    Personally, I don't really remember talking to my folks about this at all - I think I was pretty much left to get on with it.
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    My parents had zero influence. No one really influenced me at all, actually. I went through the researching and application process without really talking to anyone about it. I already knew what I wanted to do.
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    Anyone who lets their parents decide what they're doing at university shouldn't be going to university at all.
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    No.

    I just got on with what I wanted to do and I did not let anyone influence me.

    People will always come up with their opinions but the decision is ultimately down to you.
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    I spoke to my parents about universities, they came with me on open days and I asked their opinions about different courses and different areas.

    However, the final decision was mine- I just involved them in the decision making process.
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    They won't really in future but they'll support me

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    Not really I came up with it all on my own, though when I was going through career choices they did give me advice and pros and cons and helped me get work experience but it was always up to me (though I reckon if I hadn't chosen a STEM subject they wouldn't have been best pleased :laugh: and may not have helped as much)
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    I did discuss it with them after I had offers from the 3 main universities I wanted to go to and couldn't decide which one to pick. I asked a lot of people their opinions though.

    I'm still not sure whether I want to swap NUA and herts though.


    edit: ye they came with me on the open days as well and helped me decide which ones to apply for. Because some of the lecturers came across as real dicks and my parents helped me judge their characters lol. Having good lecturers was one of the most important things for me.
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    My parents didn't go to university so they didn't know what advice to give me. I was left to get on with it myself in effect.
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    Yep, they didn't want me to move out so I only applied to universities in London

    They had very little influence in my choice of university course though, neither of my parents went to university themselves so they aren't too clued up about any of it.
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    My Mum waited until I'd applied and got offers from UCL, Southampton, Warwick, York and Nottingham to tell me that she would never drive me to or from any of them apart from UCL/Southampton (we live in London). So while she didn't choose for me, exactly, that left me pretty stuck. It's a shame but I don't regret the uni I went to anyway so it's no bother.
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    They wouldn't have a clue
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    Not in the slightest, but we would have made the same choice so the issue didn't arise. I didn't really consult them on where to apply, etc.

    This forum probably influenced me more than anyone else.
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    None for my undergrad degree and none for my future degree.

    My parents didn't go to Uni or even sat their O Levels so they have no idea what's going on.
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    they pretty much decided it...

    well they made great points ...did great research and I agreed

    got lucky you could say

    and after today really lucky...
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    No, they left it entirely up to me which is as it should be.
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    (Original post by shooks)
    If you're at uni or currently in the application process, how much influence did your parents have on your decision?

    Did you talk to them about where you were planning to apply to - or the course you were thinking of doing?

    Did they have more influence on you than other people - such as your teachers and careers adviser? If so, what advice did they give you?

    Personally, I don't really remember talking to my folks about this at all - I think I was pretty much left to get on with it.
    My parents had very little input into my university choices, all they did was direct me to the sort of unis I should look into applying for e.g. Russell Group. Nevertheless, my firm choice is the one they both went to. :dontknow:
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    Both my parents are Cambridge trained lawyers. They very much wanted my elder brother to follow their footsteps but he wasn't exactly law school material let alone Cambridge material. I told them I wanted to pursue engineering, they simply said whatever. Thus I did and had all the guidance from my school tutors and housemaster who steered me towards the programs they thought I would be best suited for as well as had interest in. After I had been done my parents seeing the deject my elder brother had become pressured me to read law which I did and since they were paying I didn't exactly say no.

    My own kids, my eldest I never influenced her towards any particular field of study though I did tell her there is an expectation on her that after all I had invested in her that at the very least I see some results from it. She developed a thing for medicine, I told her to give it her absolute best and see what happens. As for uni choice, she wanted UCL but was also accepted to Oxford and Birmingham. I told her as if she went to Oxford then she could stay at the family house as it was within commuting distance. We didn't prevent her from UCL just told her it would be student digs and most likely the cheapest ones available as her mother was somewhat against the idea of her pursuing studies in UK.

    My 2nd, she is starting to think about university as she is also more of a engineering and scientific minded person. I do encourage her to consider Oxford or perhaps Warwick for reason that we have a home that is within commuting distance but she wants to go to USA or if that doesn't happen she wants to go to Finland. I only tell her do the best she can and if she gets the unis she wants in US then it is my job to pay for it.
 
 
 
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