"out of your league"

My advice would be to work out who you are as a person and become comfortable with that. Being totally secure in yourself is a very attractive and valuable thing. When you value yourself, you look after yourself - eating well, keeping fit, dressing well, etc. So when you do those things, it communicates that you have this self-worth.

Work out what your goals in life are and make steps all the time towards achieving them. Be someone who's going somewhere in life. Women are like talent scouts - they love guys who they think are going somewhere. Fill your life with the things you enjoy and have a positive outlook. Most of all, contribute value to the people around you.

These aren't easy things to do. You have to spend time to discover these things about yourself and work them into your life. You need to keep in mind that moving "leagues" is playing the long game - it's not an overnight process. It's about building your character into the person you want to be, which takes time. So there are no quick fixes and no guy on the internet can really do much to get you to do any of it, but if you believe that you're worth the effort, you will do it automatically. In my case, I know I'll meet my goals because I work towards them even on autopilot - they're just part of who I am.

If you're able to work out what you want from life and start seeing yourself making step after step in getting there, self-esteem, confidence and security will come naturally. These things can't be learned from a WikiHow - if they're going to be truly ingrained, they need to be organic.

So for the short-term, make sure you're eating right, dressing well, keeping fit and being social, but in the long-term you need to know what you want from life and start walking in that direction. That's what it takes to really change leagues.

This whole league concept is quite stupid , get money and it will shock you how easy girls become.

i guess id never really thought about it being an issue until others started making me aware of it..

My advice would be to work out who you are as a person and become comfortable with that. Being totally secure in yourself is a very attractive and valuable thing. When you value yourself, you look after yourself - eating well, keeping fit, dressing well, etc. So when you do those things, it communicates that you have this self-worth.

Work out what your goals in life are and make steps all the time towards achieving them. Be someone who's going somewhere in life. Women are like talent scouts - they love guys who they think are going somewhere. Fill your life with the things you enjoy and have a positive outlook. Most of all, contribute value to the people around you.

These aren't easy things to do. You have to spend time to discover these things about yourself and work them into your life. You need to keep in mind that moving "leagues" is playing the long game - it's not an overnight process. It's about building your character into the person you want to be, which takes time. So there are no quick fixes and no guy on the internet can really do much to get you to do any of it, but if you believe that you're worth the effort, you will do it automatically. In my case, I know I'll meet my goals because I work towards them even on autopilot - they're just part of who I am.

If you're able to work out what you want from life and start seeing yourself making step after step in getting there, self-esteem, confidence and security will come naturally. These things can't be learned from a WikiHow - if they're going to be truly ingrained, they need to be organic.

So for the short-term, make sure you're eating right, dressing well, keeping fit and being social, but in the long-term you need to know what you want from life and start walking in that direction. That's what it takes to really change leagues.

I don't think this idea of leagues is the best model for us to have, but I don't think it's total BS either. For most guys, good luck picking up a supermodel. The competition is too fierce. If you're a Championship team trying to play in the Premiership, maybe one in a thousand you'll win by fluke, but the reality is you're not going to have much success overall.

The bad part about this "she's out of your league" business is that it implies that you shouldn't try and that you should accept your station. People aren't born into a league and destined to never improve. If you want to play in the Premiership, improve yourself to the point that that's where you belong. Get in shape, get confidence, get a good career, be secure in yourself. Believe you're worth the effort and act that way, and over time you'll get there.

A lot of people are happy to settle though. Often the "she's out of your league" business is judgemental - if a friend says that to you, he doesn't have your best interests at heart. He doesn't want you to make it to the Premiership, because he thinks he's stuck in Championship forever. He's projecting his own insecurities and limiting beliefs onto you and expecting you to live by them too. Screw that. Become a high value person and you will be chosen by high value women.

P.S. I don't know anything about football so Premiership and Championship are the only leagues I know.

i guess id never really thought about it being an issue until others started making me aware of it..

the classic out of your league comment can mean so much. it can hurt someone or simply be a joke from friend to friend. i have recieved this 2 or 3 times and never really thought about it before me and my girlfriend got together some time ago.. i cant stand being told this as i am quite insecure as it is. i wondered if anyone has any advice on what they would do or any opinions on the matter. my girlfriend is beautiful i know that and i tell her pretty much every day. i have attatched the latest picture we took together in the sun

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