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    In my current relationship I'm forced to make all the passes for anything sexual to happen. It's at a point where it wouldn't happen at all unless I try. We've been seeing each other for a year and maybe a part of me thinks that she doesn't feel like she has to because she doesn't need to impress me anymore. Just to clarify, I'm not in it for the sex. I'm really passionate about the girl and I hope it lasts long but I just can't handle how one sided it is. She makes all the shots and just lacks any luster for anything I could want. It's at the point now where I actually have to ask her if she enjoyed it every time because I keep getting the feeling that I'm forcing her (I would never force her), but it still makes me feel bad and ugh after. She says she enjoys it but it makes me feel like it's something she just wants to get over and done with.

    She's a very cutsie type of girl, she likes her cute stuff. I'm expected to be cute all the time and be cuddly ALL of the time. As much as I enjoy doing it there are times where I feel it isn't me to be doing this all the time and I want a little bit of what we could both want but she never seems interested! She'll happily take all the cuddles and cute stuff but when it comes to what I might want (or what we should both want) I have to slowly edge towards it and make passes as such and it feels like such a chore to do it and it annoys me. Whenever I confront her about it she always says "it's just not my thing, I enjoy it but it's not like I need to do it because of urges etc" It's frustrating me to the point where I pretty much pester her. Then she'll sometimes cry when I confront her about it because she feels like she HAS to give it, which makes it even more of the effort and runs down my emotional attachment to her because all she makes me feel is guilt.

    When she does try, she tempted me on, and said we could do it on the day then cried for no reason other than "she felt she had to give it because i expected it" (which you know, you kind of would?) on the day she suggested which frustrated me even more. Next day followed, she promised the same thing, she cried AGAIN and said she wasn't in the mood. It's really hard. I want to enjoy a physical side of the relationship because it's got to the point where I just can't enjoy the emotional side because of the stress it gives me.

    Any help?

    Just to clarify again - Not in it for the sex so I don't plan on leaving her because of it.

    Have you tried getting her in the mood?
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