Soothing nerves before a first date

Date tonight with a guy I really like.....aaaaaahhhhhh!!!

I get really, really nervous before stuff like this. Please can anyone give me tips on how to relax? I don't want him to see that I'm feeling nervous, and if I am, I'll either go really quiet and awkward or talk way too much and make a fool of myself! Any advice appreciated.

P.S I'm anonymous because he also uses TSR and I don't want him reading this thread, obviously...

Reply 1

Sazarina88

11

Imagine the best ever scenario and the worst possible scenario and relax yourself by knowing that your date is going to be somewhere in between, probably more towards the fantastic side.

Deep breaths, don't think about every little detail of what is going to happen, occupy yourself before then with anything, glam yourself up nearer the time so you feel absolutely gorgeous and confident!

Good luck!
Sarah

Reply 2

squigaletta

whenever im nervous (dates or exams etc) i spend ages on my appearance, just do ur makeup and outfit really thoroughly (that don't mean spend 5 hrs applying layer upon layer of makeup! not a good look) but just focus on how u look rather that the evening, i find it dead soothing n distracting, cant b nervous when ur doing mascara or u get all blothcy black eyes!

Reply 3

Triplet1

13

I'm sure he will be nervous to.
When you see him just try to relax, start talking to him and i'm sure you will realise there was nothing to be nervous about.
Hope you have a brill time

:biggrin:

Reply 4

Starling

2

You just have to not let yourself get wound up, if possible, because in the long run it doesn't matter and you're doing it to enjoy yourself! I am sure you will be fine. What's the setting of the date?

Reply 5

asianangel86

13

i think preening yourself too much will make it look like you made too much of an effort. the best way to calm your nerves before a date is make yourself happy. have some chocolate (yay serotonin!) and listen to a song you like, read something that will make you laugh and consider that if he wants to go out with you it's because he likes you for who you are; so stay in a good mood, be yourself and knock him dead with your sexy self!

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Town and then his house....!

Reply 7

high priestess fnord

9

imagine him in his underwear :wink:

mmm...

Reply 8

Sazarina88

11

But making yourself feel gorgeous, perhaps by wearing a favourite top or necklace, can really make you feel fabulous.

The listening to a song idea is good, put on something that really makes you feel great. I'm sure you have one or several songs that you love.

I think the most important thing to do is to keep active and not to just sit there and go through everything that *might* go wrong when it's highly unlikely that anything will.

Have a fabulatastic time and let us know how you get on :biggrin:

Sarah

Reply 9

Ron Stoppable

14

Sazarina88

Imagine the best ever scenario and the worst possible scenario and relax yourself by knowing that your date is going to be somewhere in between, probably more towards the fantastic side.

Fantastic - everyone should do it. Sounds very familiar though... :wink:

high prnucess fnord

imagine him in his underwear :wink:

mmm...

Man-eater!

Reply 10

squigaletta

asianangel86

i think preening yourself too much will make it look like you made too much of an effort. the best way to calm your nerves before a date is make yourself happy. have some chocolate (yay serotonin!) and listen to a song you like, read something that will make you laugh and consider that if he wants to go out with you it's because he likes you for who you are; so stay in a good mood, be yourself and knock him dead with your sexy self!

i do agree, i never think you should look like youve been preening or anything, but i find the process of making up threaputic rather than doing it for the result of looking good. i do think its possible to preen for a while and not end up looking overly made up or keen. if you include bathing and moisturising and things like that, you can still take a long time and relax, but they arent really noticable as making you look like uv made an effort, make sense?

Reply 11

Sazarina88

11

high priestess fnord

imagine him in his underwear :wink:

mmm...

I'm sure that will help her to relax :rolleyes:

Depends what underwear he has I suppose.

If she imagined http://gfx.dagbladet.no/pub/artikkel/4/43/438/438517/lju_ap.jpg then I'm sure the last thing on her mind would be to relax!

Reply 12

MissHero

1

Aquaint yourself with Mr Al. Cohol. He'll make you feel better. :p:

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

MissHero

Aquaint yourself with Mr Al. Cohol. He'll make you feel better. :p:

Lol thank you, best idea yet!

Also....his family may be at his house, which terrifies me. Wtf am I supposed to say to his mum and dad? Whilst inwardly praying that they're not having mental images of me romping with their son?

Reply 14

Sazarina88

11

I just found this that made me laugh:

"Avoid groping your girlfriend or boyfriend in public. Keep physical contact to a minimum to show the folks you love their child for more than just her or his body."

Seriously, just be yourself and don't swear.

Reply 15

high priestess fnord

9

Ron Stoppable

Man-eater!

*tries to look angelic*

Sazarina88

I'm sure that will help her to relax :rolleyes:

Depends what underwear he has I suppose.

If she imagined http://gfx.dagbladet.no/pub/artikkel/4/43/438/438517/lju_ap.jpg then I'm sure the last thing on her mind would be to relax!

rofl well it might be therapeutic XD

i wish my bf could have kept to the no groping in public thing tho :rolleyes:

Reply 16

Sazarina88

11

high priestess fnord

*tries to look angelic*

And fails.

Reply 17

Profesh

20

I find 'nerves' endearing; to my mind, they illustrate concern.

However, assuming your date isn't me: muster some 'Dutch courage' by supping a pint beforehand.