So this is a topic that has come up a lot. For me and my really close group of friends we are all virgins, and no it doesn't bother us all too much, but recently I'm just kicking myself for not sleeping with one of my exes. Ive had 3 serious relationships in my life, one a year and a half, one 8 months and the other 6 months. I've done absolutely everything in the book BESIDES have sex. Hell I even tried bondage with one of my exes. But what gives? At this point I don't see my virginity as anything. Not some untouched prize. Just a burdensome label. I would be perfectly content to lose it to a one night stand to be completely honest. Is this terrible? I'm just so sick of being so close to not being a virgin, yet still being one. What should I do?
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- Thread Starter
- 14-07-2014 00:16
- 16-07-2014 18:16
I'm laughing at the fact that you took part in bondage before sex. (Not in a mean way - I did the same!)
My advice? Either sleep with someone or stop worrying about it so much. No, losing your virginity in a one night stand isn't terrible (some people would say it's advisable, but whatever floats your boat dude.)
Tbh being a virgin/not a virgin doesn't mean all that much, or anything really. It's not going to make you a different person, and it's not going to make you any better at sex until you've been around the block a few times.
- 16-07-2014 23:00
So basically, due to circumstances you are now desperate (or on the verge of) to have sex.
Easiest and quickest option is to hire an adult sex worker. That way you can have everything you want, your own way.
Failing that, you can always go to a club and ask some really drunk girls for sex which will work eventually but don't count on getting anyone 'decent' or expect to be able to pick and choose. Sex is what it says on the tin. It doesn't necessarily mean you'll find a nice girl or a girl you'll even like.
- 16-07-2014 23:03
I lost my virginity a couple of days ago at 16, see my other thread.
It's not all its cracked up to be, it was a bit too sticky personally (rubs fingers together, for no reason :P)
- 16-07-2014 23:06
I lost mine at 17, and was pretty boring.
It gets much better as you gain more experience.
Admittedly I had no idea what I was doing hence why it doesn't seem 'all that' at first.
- 16-07-2014 23:28
It's really not a big deal unless you feel pressured to having sex.
I couldn't care less.