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    I don't think I look that bad , probably average or a little better and I'm almost 6'1'' and , 170 lbs and I dress nice, have good hygiene etc . Plus I've had plenty of gay guys try to chat me up when I lived around the gay area in Brighton (felt flattered in a way but no thanks, not my cup of tea). Why don't girls ever approach me? Is there something wrong with me or anything I can do to change it? I'm shy by nature but I have tried asking girls out quite a few times with little to zero success.

    Is there anything I can do to have girls ask me out or will I die alone?
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    Many guys have never been asked out, including myself. Don't feel bad.
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    Similar to what eatandrevise said also lots of girls have never been asked out, including myself. Don't beat yourself up about it though, there's likely nothing wrong with you. I know you've said you've had little success approaching women but you've just got to keep trying not everyone will be attracted to you back that's just life but some of them will. I've approached several guys, mostly got rejection but I got 2 boyfriends out of it in the end (not at the same time though ).
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    I don't think girls ever approach the opposite gender that easily. If you were a female and had problems attracting guys then that's a completely different story...
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    (Original post by EatAndRevise)
    Many guys have never been asked out, including myself. Don't feel bad.
    Yeah , I kind of figured though I don't understand why. I have seen a few guys being approached by women. Do women only like a small % of all men? Are there rest of us so ugly/repulsive to them or just invisible? I mean you see girls who are below average looking get plenty of attention so why doesn't it happen the other way around?
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    How old are you?
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    Yeah , I kind of figured though I don't understand why. I have seen a few guys being approached by women. Do women only like a small % of all men? Are there rest of us so ugly/repulsive to them or just invisible? I mean you see girls who are below average looking get plenty of attention so why doesn't it happen the other way around?
    The men being approached by women will be the most attractive, or the richest.
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    Yeah , I kind of figured though I don't understand why. I have seen a few guys being approached by women. Do women only like a small % of all men? Are there rest of us so ugly/repulsive to them or just invisible? I mean you see girls who are below average looking get plenty of attention so why doesn't it happen the other way around?
    Oh don't be stupid. Not all women will like all men but there will be people who think you're good-looking or whatever. You just need to find the women where that attraction is mutual and make a move if it looks like she isn't going to.

    And no. Not all girls get heaps of attention. I certainly don't.
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    what the **** is wrong with guys on tsr for the past few days?

    actually laughed a little when i clicked this thread and saw that it was actually a male who was whining about not being asked out.

    figure it out you nonce, girls seldom ask out the guy, that's your job. if you're too cowardly to do it, then tough.

    btw stop trying to blame the other sex when it's clearly you at fault.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Similar to what eatandrevise said also lots of girls have never been asked out, including myself. Don't beat yourself up about it though, there's likely nothing wrong with you. I know you've said you've had little success approaching women but you've just got to keep trying not everyone will be attracted to you back that's just life but some of them will. I've approached several guys, mostly got rejection but I got 2 boyfriends out of it in the end (not at the same time though ).
    You're a girl and you've never been approached? Why do you think that is? This might be the first time I've ever heard a girl say this hmm... Usually they complain about way too much attention from (undesirable) guys. Which is ironic because after a lifetime of complaining about men catcallingand gazing at them, women suddenly start getting depressed and say how they miss all the attention they used to get and they feel invisible once they hit 40.
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    (Original post by BullViagra)
    what the **** is wrong with guys on tsr for the past few days?

    actually laughed a little when i clicked this thread and saw that it was actually male who was whining about not being asked out.

    figure it out you nonce, girls seldom ask out the guy, that's your job. if you're too cowardly to do it, then tough.
    "that's your job" that is complete nonsense.
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    Yeah , I kind of figured though I don't understand why. I have seen a few guys being approached by women. Do women only like a small % of all men? Are there rest of us so ugly/repulsive to them or just invisible? I mean you see girls who are below average looking get plenty of attention so why doesn't it happen the other way around?
    Start talking to more girls. They might not want to go out with you because they don't know you. Also, for some reason, girls don't generally like to ask guys out so that might also be a reason.
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    (Original post by EatAndRevise)
    "that's your job" that is complete nonsense.
    in a society where girls very much expect to be approached, then yes it's his job.

    if that seems morally wrong and out of order to you then go cry a river
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    You're a girl and you've never been approached? Why do you think that is? This might be the first time I've ever heard a girl say this hmm... Usually they complain about way too much attention from (undesirable) guys. Which is ironic because after a lifetime of complaining about men catcallingand gazing at them, women suddenly start getting depressed and say how they miss all the attention they used to get and they feel invisible once they hit 40.
    I don't know why that is, I'm not ugly though I'm not ridiculously stunning I'm decent looking. I might just seem unapproachable, it might be because I mainly hang around with men and people may assume I'm not single, it may be because men feel intimidated by in some way..I have no idea why. Or maybe no one has had the nerve to ask me out. Who knows. And it's really not that uncommon I know plenty of girls who have not been approached or asked out, you just don't notice it because they're not the girls you see getting hit on, we are here you just don't see us.
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    You're a girl and you've never been approached? Why do you think that is? This might be the first time I've ever heard a girl say this hmm... Usually they complain about way too much attention from (undesirable) guys. Which is ironic because after a lifetime of complaining about men catcallingand gazing at them, women suddenly start getting depressed and say how they miss all the attention they used to get and they feel invisible once they hit 40.
    I'm the same too, and I am female. I get undesirable attention but not actual attention. Don't really know why, maybe it's because I haven't really gone out to meet any one new.
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    Its overrated.
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    (Original post by BullViagra)
    in a society where girls very much expect to be approached, then yes it's his job.

    if that seems morally wrong and out of order to you then go cry a river
    I am not complaining, I am merely stating that your claim that it is a "man's job" to ask out women, is wrong.
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    (Original post by EatAndRevise)
    "that's your job" that is complete nonsense.
    Although it is kind of nonsense it is unfortunately the societal norm for the men to ask the women out (though yes some girls, including me will approach guys). But from a statistical point of view if you are a guy you are less likely to be approached, though I think it is becoming more common for girls to make a move nowadays so hopefully this silly archaic way of going about approaching the opposite sex will fade soon.
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    Don't expect the world to give a ****. The world's not rooting for you. But it's not against you either. If you want things you have to go and get them - waiting will get you nowhere.
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    (Original post by cerlohee)
    Start talking to more girls. They might not want to go out with you because they don't know you. Also, for some reason, girls don't generally like to ask guys out so that might also be a reason.
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    How old are you?
    I'm 21. And Ido talk to plenty of girls. Believe me, most guys don't like doing the asking either, who could possibly enjoy being shut down and humiliated time after time? For some reason most girls seem to think they shouldn't have to do it and it's fine just to wait for guys to take all the risks, like a man's soul can't be crushed by constant rejection.

    I believe it should be 50/50 and both should meet somewhere in the middle instead of one gender being expected to take all the chances and do all the groundwork. I mean I could understand this 50 or 60 years ago but we're living in 2014.
 
 
 
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