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    Like the title says, im at a crossroad as to what to do.

    Ive not had much female attention throughout my life and I think I may have some internal issues that draw me towards wanting or needing someone...
    I met someone towards the end of uni with whom im really have, she brightens my day, puts the biggest smile ive ever had on my face.
    At the same time, ive been working hard at uni to be able to get the best job I can and managed to get hold of it after an internship last year, I know the people there and I know I like it the problem is I have to move for it..
    And im really considering leaving the job (not necessary instantly, maybe within a year) to pursue the relationship and settle down with her
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    Take things a day at a time, take the job and just see how things go.This all seems very rushed, are you even in a relationship with this girl?
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    Dude im not usually the type that says career over all else , because there are other ways of being happy in life.

    But in this case you should definitely go with the career .
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    Dream girl would be a higher priority to me than a dream job, although a dream girl would probably mean you didn't have to sacrifice a career.
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    Dream career, you can't let that slip out of your hands. You worked so hard for this.
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    You're the man, if she's your dream girl, make her change her life and come with you. If you're her dream guy, she will be happy to do it.
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    To be honest relationships come and go. If she really was the dream girl or 'the one' then i'm sure there would have been a way to work it out. You are only recently finishing university, need to make the most of the career opportunities being offered to you. Thats what i think anyway

    Is your life and ultimately your choice, but make sure you think about it carefully before making a decision
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    (Original post by 41b)
    You're the man, if she's your dream girl, make her change her life and come with you. If you're her dream guy, she will be happy to do it.
    That's slightly sexist, because your the man she has to be submissive?
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    Dream career. No doubt about it.
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    Dream career so that one day you can buy your dream girl
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    Go for the job. You're young and your confidence will grow with the career. This opportunity might not come round again, but there are 3 billion other girls in the world!
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    Dream job... If you went for this girl and things ****ed up later down the line, you'll seriously regret not taking the job. A dream job may come but once a lifetime, many people out there are still fighting to get what they want. You've got what you've wanted, don't lose it for the sake of one girl. She may seem like your dream girl right now, but if she seriously is things will work out and she'll understand why you're sticking to your career at this moment. If not, there are plenty of other girls who'll make you feel that way too.
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    I think being the lame person I am I would go for the dream girl :lol:
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    (Original post by redferry)
    Take things a day at a time, take the job and just see how things go.This all seems very rushed, are you even in a relationship with this girl?
    Weve been seeing each other exclusively for the past 2 months
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    Dream job there's always other girls and your relationship may not last which means you passed up an oppurtunity
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Weve been seeing each other exclusively for the past 2 months
    That's still REALLY early days. Slow and steady and all that...
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    Go for the dream job, you've worked hard for it and you might not get an opportunity like that for a long time if you don't pursue it now.
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    Throwing away your dream job for the first girl who might be into you is about the worst decision a young person can make. Go with the career. There will be other dream girls.
 
 
 
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