What's the most extreme sexual past you would accept in a partner? (1-10 scale)Watch
ie I'm not really into that stuff so they would need to be accepting of that, and they would also still need the ability to be intimate with sex. Basically I think its unlikely a relationship would work out as they might find me a but vanilla if that is what they are into!
Anything more and I'd probably question the presence of underlying psychological issues which could surface in our relationship, or the expectation of such activities being present in our sex life.
Oh and female, 20.
would probably be more likely to be sexually compatible with someone 3-8 but anything's possible
also didn't realize multiple person sex was regarded as an 'extreme' activity
But I doubt whoever was out of their head so much that that doesn't remember how many, where or with whom, can be happy in monogamous, faithful relationship, they also likely to have drinking/drug/mental problems to boot.
Willing to accept, 8 (maybe 9), perhaps 10 depending on other factors.
- Did they cheat on their partner(s)?
- Do they have a history of being emotionally or physically abusive?
- Do they have a history of being a liar or game player?
- Did they badly hurt their partner(s) such as by callously discarding them?
- Did they violate their partner's/partners' privacy by gossiping about private things?
Those are all red flags, because they suggest a greater chance of them doing likewise to you.
If they suited me really well, including whatever personal issues they have fitting well with my personality and my own issues, then 1-4 I'd have no issues with and most likely 9 also no issues.
5-8 and 10 however, I would probably not be comfortable with - because I doubt I would be the kind of person that would suit them since I never want to do some of those things. I'm not even a casual sex kind of person, at all. If they would genuinely be completely happy not being like that with me though, depends.
The reason 9 is different is because if they went into it as a profession for whatever reason, it probably isn't necessarily what they want in their personal life with me. It would depend on their personality, but they could be just like anyone in 1-4 only with a very different life story.
They'd have to an exceptional kind of person to suit me perfectly and have had a crazy past though, because I'm just so naturally opposite. It wouldn't be because of the past itself if we didn't suit though.
My fiance happened to be a 2 when I met him, only with more ex-girlfriends. And a bit more experience than 'fondling' implies. He wishes he was a 1 when he met me, but I think it's a shame to think like that when it just isn't your natural story.