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    I go to this weekly social club, and I liked this girl there, we got on really well. she told me she had never had a boyfriend or any kind of relationship p, so I asked her out for a drink, and told me that she didn't want to because she had had bad passed experiences, (can't work out if this is a lie or not)

    No big deal so far, win some lose some right? I decides it's best just to back of and be polite/civil the next time I see her. What really bewilders me is that the following week when I go, all evening she was being really flirty, in the things we were doing/saying. To list a few:

    - saying stuff like 'you've made my day'

    - "I've hardly seen you today where have you been?"

    - when talking, she's leans closely, and gives really direct eye contact p

    - but the weirdest thing I found was that, after we had ended, she comes up to me and hugs me saying "I'm going to miss you" (I was going away to Greece for a week). This is strange because I've never seen her hug any other boy at this social club not even any of her girl friends.

    At first I was thinking, attention whore but she really does strike me as that type, anyway I would really appreciate it if some girls could shed some light on what is going through her head and how I should act around her.

    Thanks in advance!!! :cool:
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    As well as those found in a relationship, all of these also come across as friendly traits to me.

    I'm not saying she doesn't like you or that you'll never become closer, you very well might. However I am simply saying that you shouldn't get too caught up in her actions because for a lot of people you really can't tell whether they like you or not simply by their behaviour, friendly behaviour is very similar to that in relationships with the odd exceptions of course.

    i.e. hugging, laughing, joking, play fighting, tickling, going out together shopping, cinema, for lunch etc - friends also do this.
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    As well as those found in a relationship, all of these also come across as friendly traits to me.

    I'm not saying she doesn't like you or that you'll never become closer, you very well might. However I am simply saying that you shouldn't get too caught up in her actions because for a lot of people you really can't tell whether they like you or not simply by their behaviour, friendly behaviour is very similar to that in relationships with the odd exceptions of course.

    i.e. hugging, laughing, joking, play fighting, tickling, going out together shopping, cinema, for lunch etc - friends also do this.
    I would agree but sorry, she never acted this flirty before and why the **** would you act like this to a guy who asked you out the day before. I'm not one of these guys who thinks because a girl smiles at me she's in to me, I'm really not but I can tell when someone is going out of there way for attention.
    I mean she was half way down the stairs before she came back up to hug me.
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    But you got rejected.

    The whole "I'm not ready right now" or "I had a bad past" is what the vast majority of girls say when they don't want someone but want to be nice and friendly. In other words, it's a nicer way or an easier way than saying "no I don't want to be with you, but I'll be friends".

    If you've got guts (and I don't!) ask her directly and say because her behaviour confuses you and you just want to know where to stand.
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    Carry on with life as usual and see how things go?
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    Seems like she wants to keep you as an option in case she changes her mind. Pretty brutal.
 
 
 
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