Breakup :(

she sounds common ! haha to be honest mate, I think you are better off without her.
I had a irani boyfriend who was all sweet with me at first but he was just a dogg and he even went to prison in the end, I wrote to him but even after 5 years , I could tell he still hadn't changed, you cant change some people at the end of the day, you know what I mean>>???

mine is still on facebook too think he has a kid now with some girl - poor thing- only so he can get benefits etc.
some girls cant smell the coffee until its too late or burnt them! haha

It must be very painful for you, breakups are extra hard when no closure is given and to have it come out of the blue like that was unfortunate. But what has happened has happened, and now its time to deal with it.

What you should remember of her is that she was cruel enough to put you through all this when you were grieving. It doesn't matter why she did it, but she actually did you a favour in that now you are free to find a woman who cares for you. You need to focus on something, find something you can give your attention to fully like a new hobby and in time you'll find that you think of her less and less until you don't at all. There are good women out there, you should try to find one

No one can take away the pain completely, but know that it is temporary and in a year's time (probably less!), you won't feel like this and you won't care about what she does. Just hold on in there.

I think you have issues if you want a girlfriend like that. So, I wouldn't even bother with her.

If you ask yourself "do I want a girl like this" every time you think about her, you shouldn't have a problem

Breakups are always hard especially when it is your first, trust me from experience it is better to cut all forms of contact with her, I know it is an old cliche but in time it does get better.

It must be very painful for you, breakups are extra hard when no closure is given and to have it come out of the blue like that was unfortunate. But what has happened has happened, and now its time to deal with it.

What you should remember of her is that she was cruel enough to put you through all this when you were grieving. It doesn't matter why she did it, but she actually did you a favour in that now you are free to find a woman who cares for you. You need to focus on something, find something you can give your attention to fully like a new hobby and in time you'll find that you think of her less and less until you don't at all. There are good women out there, you should try to find one

No one can take away the pain completely, but know that it is temporary and in a year's time (probably less!), you won't feel like this and you won't care about what she does. Just hold on in there.

I found this reply/advice very sweet and apt.

Hang in there buddy. She is exceptionally cruel to ignore you and give you no closure.

Make no mistake -she knows she is making you suffer, so don't think of her as this nice girl. She isnt.

i have been touched by all replied on here so thank you all very much.

thanks mate, i will try to do so. Yeah, i wish she told me. I keep finding excuses for her too, keep telling myself i deserved it. thanks though, very helpful again.

You don't deserve it. She is just being acoward and cruel. It happened to me once, so i know how it feels. You keep going over it in your head.

But you know what i eventually learned? I didnt need her to tell me it was over for closure. I learned to give myself the closure. Her actions showed it was over - i didnt need the words anymore.

Take the power and control back and tell yourself its over. A girl who cares for u and respects you wont treat you like this.

Best wishes.