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    I've kind of come to terms with my sexuality. I know that I could never fall in love with a man, get into a meaningful relationship with a man or even kiss one. There's only one part of their anatomy I'm attracted too. I've experimented with men & I have enjoyed it although I feel so guilty afterwards (even though I haven't cheated on anyone).

    I've been I in love with a lady before & I find the whole female figure great. Kissing & cuddling is just as necessary as the sex. I know without a shadow of a doubt that if I had to choose just one gender to have sex with it'd be women. With the men it's just been about the sex but it is fun (it's also far easier to have casual sex with a man than a women, lets be honest )

    There are terms out there which I've read like hetroflexible which are fairly accurate.
    Are many other men/women out there in a similar situation? I suppose I just want to know if it's normal(ish).
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've kind of come to terms with my sexuality. I know that I could never fall in love with a man, get into a meaningful relationship with a man or even kiss one. There's only one part of their anatomy I'm attracted too. I've experimented with men & I have enjoyed it although I feel so guilty afterwards (even though I haven't cheated on anyone).

    I've been I in love with a lady before & I find the whole female figure great. Kissing & cuddling is just as necessary as the sex. I know without a shadow of a doubt that if I had to choose just one gender to have sex with it'd be women. With the men it's just been about the sex but it is fun (it's also far easier to have casual sex with a man than a women, lets be honest )

    There are terms out there which I've read like hetroflexible which are fairly accurate.
    Are many other men/women out there in a similar situation? I suppose I just want to know if it's normal(ish).
    Normal is non-existent. Your normal is what you want to do or what you do, do.

    As a gay man myself, I don't really understand how you can just have sex with a man and suddenly be heterosexual after it and before it but just switch at that moment but hey whatever floats your boat.
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    Your sexuality is your sexuality. You shouldn't be worried about 'whether it seems normal'. You say you've come to terms with it so embrace it and enjoy yourself
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    I have hesitated to post anything about this without being anon before, but meh.
    Basically what you have described is exactly what I feel (just without the actual experience bit). So nice I'm not the only one!
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    To be honest i'm kind of like this too but i've never done anything not hetero.
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    I'm kinda the opposite (could be romantic with men or women, but atm only see myself having sex with women) and lack experience in this area completely... but am sure you're def not alone! Don't worry so much
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    yeah normal, i know i guy the same
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    You shouldn't feel guilty if you experiment with men, like you said you're not cheating. I really wouldn't worry if it was normal or look for a term/label for it, I just say have a relationship/have sex with which gender you want. As long as it's legal, it doesn't matter I think probably more people feel how you do then it seems.
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    (Original post by JayJay-C19)
    Normal is non-existent. Your normal is what you want to do or what you do, do.

    As a gay man myself, I don't really understand how you can just have sex with a man and suddenly be heterosexual after it and before it but just switch at that moment but hey whatever floats your boat.
    I think it's because I can separate the sex from the emotions as I'm only attracted to what they pack between their legs. But yeah, as I mentioned, it does make me feel a bit disgusted after even though I enjoy it.

    (Original post by DivinityA)
    Your sexuality is your sexuality. You shouldn't be worried about 'whether it seems normal'. You say you've come to terms with it so embrace it and enjoy yourself
    Thanks!

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    I have hesitated to post anything about this without being anon before, but meh.
    Basically what you have described is exactly what I feel (just without the actual experience bit). So nice I'm not the only one!
    I didn't think I'd be the only one. You must have bigger stones than me then. Thanks for sharing.
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    The thought of being romantically attracted to a women and imagining myself being in a relationship with a woman does not make me feel good. I immediately think "ew" because I am not attracted to females like that.

    But last night I dreamt I was doing sexual stuff with a super hot instagram-famous model girl I follow. Don't ask why, I don't know why. But I definitely didn't want the dream to end. I have watched lesbian porn before and been turned on, and experimented with a friend, but I woke up feeling super guilty and disgusted with myself after that despite knowing I sort of enjoyed it at the time. Again, not sure why.

    Also - the thought of watching two straight girls experimenting because they're just horny is a turn on, but if I were to know it was two actual lesbian girls I was watching, it'd be less hot, or not at all.

    But yeah, kind of know where you're coming from then??
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    (Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd)
    I'm kinda the opposite (could be romantic with men or women, but atm only see myself having sex with women) and lack experience in this area completely... but am sure you're def not alone! Don't worry so much
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    yeah normal, i know i guy the same
    (Original post by fortunesfool)
    You shouldn't feel guilty if you experiment with men, like you said you're not cheating. I really wouldn't worry if it was normal or look for a term/label for it, I just say have a relationship/have sex with which gender you want. As long as it's legal, it doesn't matter I think probably more people feel how you do then it seems.
    Thanks to you three too .

    I must admit, I kind of thought (hoped) I'd grow out of this but if anything it's become more entrenched in my sexuality. It's a shame society on the whole casts labels around so easily (I'm guilty of this too on occasion).
    It's kind of double standards too -
    If a straight man experiments with another then he very quickly becomes labeled as bi/gay.
    If a gay man experiments with women the majority would still class him as gay.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks to you three too .

    I must admit, I kind of thought (hoped) I'd grow out of this but if anything it's become more entrenched in my sexuality. It's a shame society on the whole casts labels around so easily (I'm guilty of this too on occasion).
    It's kind of double standards too -
    If a straight man experiments with another then he very quickly becomes labeled as bi/gay.
    If a gay man experiments with women the majority would still class him as gay.
    i've experimented with girls but i'm straight
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    (Original post by ThoughtIsFree)
    i've experimented with girls but i'm straight
    I'm assuming you're a lady? I think there is less stigma when girls experiment, possibly as most men have the fantasy about seeing 2 girls together (including myself) & women are probably more accepting of the urge to experiment. But there's certainly still negativity there.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm assuming you're a lady? I think there is less stigma when girls experiment, possibly as most men have the fantasy about seeing 2 girls together (including myself) & women are probably more accepting of the urge to experiment. But there's certainly still negativity there.
    i am indeed :P yeah i agree there's less stigma too
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I didn't think I'd be the only one. You must have bigger stones than me then. Thanks for sharing.
    Nice to not be the only one haha.
    It's only something I've really started to accept recently and only a couple of people know about it.
    Wish I had the courage to go out there and find someone to experiment with lol.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    I know exactly what you mean dude, though I'm at the other end of the sexuality spectrum. I'm primarily into dudes, I fall in love with them, I love the romantic stuff like kissing and cuddling, I love their bodies, I love the way guys are in terms of their personality and the way they interact with other guys and girls.

    When it comes to girls, I love their bodies to some degree. I love boobs, I really enjoy nipples and breasts, I think girls can be a lot of fun in bed and I've had female lovers at times, and had relationships with girls.

    But it's clear to me in my own mind that I much prefer guys; guys are for relationships, for marriage, for children, and women are for fun. Personally, I often find it difficult to understand how any straight guy could see this

    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/atta...d=301762&stc=1

    And not want to kiss him, or touch him, or put their hands on his chest, his muscles, his pecs, and at least just feel what it's like. He's obviously a very sexy dude, whatever your sexuality. And I feel the same way with many sexy women.

    I'm homoflexible, similar situation to you but the opposite end of the spectrum. I say, just enjoy yourself dude. Enjoy the fact you can appreciate the D, but still primarily desire relationships with women. And hey, you might even find a woman who wants to enjoy both with you, so you could have some awesome threesomes. Up to you dude, personally, I think you've been blessed with a primarily hetero-but-flexible sexuality.

    I must admit, I kind of thought (hoped) I'd grow out of this but if anything it's become more entrenched in my sexuality. It's a shame society on the whole casts labels around so easily (I'm guilty of this too on occasion).
    It's kind of double standards too -
    I see what you mean, but in fact I think this is one of the best times to be alive for a dude like you. At no time in human history (except maybe if you were a reasonably well-off Roman citizen in the ancient world... then, you would be able to **** really hot slaves male and female, and w/ women, and have an awesome relationship with your wife with no judgment on the fact you play around with your hot 21 yr old Gaulish slave guy), have things been as accepting as they are now in terms of sexuality.

    I think straight guys are more and more becoming accepting of playing around a bit and experimenting, particularly given so many boys play around with their schoolmates when they are in high school. It's a great time to be alive in terms of being a person who is sexually open to different types of experiences. Enjoy it mate.
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    (Original post by WelshBluebird)
    Nice to not be the only one haha.
    It's only something I've really started to accept recently and only a couple of people know about it.
    Wish I had the courage to go out there and find someone to experiment with lol.
    Do you mean you've only recently started to accept you occasionally find guys attractive, and thinking you might enjoy having a bit of fun with an attractive, laid-back dude, but that you're still primarily attracted to girls?

    There are many, many guys you could experiment with, they're all over the place if you know the right forum through which to get in touch. Lots of straight-ish guys who just want to have some no-strings experiences with another dude, nothing too heavy.
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    It sounds like most people on here that are talking about loving both describe themselves as flexible... is it not just bisexuality?
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    (Original post by JayJay-C19)
    It sounds like most people on here that are talking about loving both describe themselves as flexible... is it not just bisexuality?
    I would disagree, I think there's something of a difference between being flexible, and being bisexual.

    Bisexual implies a certain degree of comfortableness with both genders, whether one prefers men or women, or what proportion of preference exists for one over the other.

    Flexibility has the implication of a strong, primary attraction to the opposite sex, but a certain degree of openness to having experiences and a bit of fun with the same gender.
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    I am the opposite, romantically bi but sexually straight I think anyway.
 
 
 
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