Do you have any tips for social anxiety? Watch
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- 16-07-2014 23:00
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- 17-07-2014 12:08
There's a big thread with other people who have social anxiety here: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=2728276
- 18-07-2014 00:56
Other than medicine, that's the only advice I can give.
- 19-07-2014 02:32
I have a tip that works for me sometimes but I do still suffer from anxiety!
Anxiety is every animal's response to feeling threatened. So the true purpose of anxiety is meant to be "there's a lion over there, I'd better run" or "my food might get stolen, I'd better hide it"
In our modern lives these feelings are triggered by things that aren't truly threats to our survival. You additionally can't 'flee' as you would from a lion. If school is making you anxious for example it's pretty hard to flee from that!
When I'm feeling anxious I therefore like to ask myself "what's the threat here?" For example the other day I was feeling anxious because I suggested to my friend that we do something this weekend and she sort of muttered something about being busy and didn't seem that keen. I was getting really anxious until I thought to myself "what's the threat to my survival here?" Well I could lose that friend - yes I'd be upset but would it really threaten my survival? I have other friends, I have family, I only really want good friends in my life anyway. Life would go on.
And then it felt like a much smaller problem to overcome.
All anxiety is essentially is having stress responses to situations too easily - you just have to be able to catch yourself in the process, look at the situation objectively and minimise the 'threat' in your head. Over time you will see you stop responding anxiously to situations which you used to freak out about. It just takes patience and time.