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    I apologise if this is a silly thread but I just curious. If someone was bullied for many years would being very quiet (and finding it difficult to interact with other people) be the end result? Or is it nonsense?

    My brother used to beat me up at the time I was in primary school while he was at college(punched me a couples times in the arm in the same spot so I got black green bruises) every waking day. This stopped when i was in year 10 secondary school.

    I have always found it difficult to talk to him and still do (22 now); we make conversation but I just don't feel like continuing the conversation. But when I talk to other family members it's a lot easier and I'm slightly more open. I'm even more open with my friends but even then they still say I'm quiet.

    My general (normal) mood is neutral/sad and it's difficult for me to be happy for some reason.

    Or is it simply my personality and I was born like this?

    I think I'm over it because I haven't brought this topic up for many years. But I just wonder why I am ridiculously quiet while all of my friends are not?

    People abused at a young age are likely to be affected for the rest of their lives. You can obviously move on and embrace the new life you now lead, but it’s likely there’ll always be a part of you that’s reminiscent of your old, quiet self.

    I was bullied and abused for so many years. I'm quiet, reserved and miserable. My general mood is also sad and rarely happy. I find it almost impossible to interact with people on a non-academic/non-professional setting (i.e. social). I don't know if it's related to the bullying, hard to say. Maybe it's an inherent personality trait.

    can be, it can go both ways, quiet people less likely to stick up for themselves are easier targets but if anything you say could cause a problem/lead to you getting hurt becoming quiet and saying little can be a survival strategy
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