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    I don't understand how people find the time to cheat, shouldn't their partner be on their mind most for the time?

    How can some people cheat and NOT feel bad? It's like they never cared for their partner.
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    That's the point. They don't care, they never did. They just see holes or sticks and go for it, the person doesn't mean anything to them.

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    (Original post by MylittlePlusle)
    I don't understand how people find the time to cheat, shouldn't their partner be on their mind most for the time?

    How can some people cheat and NOT feel bad? It's like they never cared for their partner.
    What's up with all of your relationship threads?

    In answer to the question though... I don't think that the cheater is committed and obviously does not value their partner at all.

    "It's like they never cared for their partner." <- that's the answer unfortunately :/

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    (Original post by Afghan Warrior)
    holes or sticks
    Hah. Agree with the sentiment though.
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    (Original post by karmacrunch)
    What's up with all of your relationship threads?

    In answer to the question though... I don't think that the cheater is committed and obviously does not value their partner at all.

    "It's like they never cared for their partner." <- that's the answer unfortunately :/

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    Not really there's most likely millions of reasons why people cheat.

    Some people do who care for their partner at an extreme level but will still cheat. It's mostly to do with how people view not only sex but also cheating. Some people sadly think it's normal and acceptable behaviour.

    Back in the early 90's roughly half the population thought it was acceptable.... it's shocking really.

    Either way it's not as simple as "they never cared about their partner"
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    (Original post by DanB1991)
    Not really there's most likely millions of reasons why people cheat.

    Some people do who care for their partner at an extreme level but will still cheat. It's mostly to do with how people view not only sex but also cheating. Some people sadly think it's normal and acceptable behaviour.

    Back in the early 90's roughly half the population thought it was acceptable.... it's shocking really.

    Either way it's not as simple as "they never cared about their partner"
    Hmm so what could justifiable reasons be? I'm curious

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    Because they don't actually love their partner, and are probably in the relationship for something else...
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    (Original post by Afghan Warrior)
    Hmm so what could justifiable reasons be? I'm curious

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    never said it was justifiable... however the "simply the not caring" argument ignores a lot.

    Even then you have some rare cases such as one partner is unable to have sex, there was that case on TSR at some point where the wife found out, originally was upset but didn't mind after thinking about it due to it being something she cannot do with him.

    Although it was quite funny, one of her "conditions" was he only used escorts/prostitutes! :laugh:
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    (Original post by DanB1991)
    never said it was justifiable... however the "simply the not caring" argument ignores a lot.

    Even then you have some rare cases such as one partner is unable to have sex, there was that case on TSR at some point where the wife found out, originally was upset but didn't mind after thinking about it due to it being something she cannot do with him.

    Although it was quite funny, one of her "conditions" was he only used escorts/prostitutes! :laugh:
    If it's cases like one partner can't sexually satisfy the other then they somehow should come to an arrangement, I saw one story on Jeremy Kyle :mmm:, so then in that case it isn't cheating is it, because the other partner knew.
    I still don't get how a cheater could still 'care' about their partner. Surely if they cared, they wouldnt have gone off and f*cked someone else. Even if lets say, one partner was abusive, or didn't give them attention and so they wanted the attention from someone else - to me, it's a daft reason. Break up with the person if they can't give you what you want (except the unable to have sex bit)

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    (Original post by Afghan Warrior)
    If it's cases like one partner can't sexually satisfy the other then they somehow should come to an arrangement, I saw one story on Jeremy Kyle :mmm:, so then in that case it isn't cheating is it, because the other partner knew.
    I still don't get how a cheater could still 'care' about their partner. Surely if they cared, they wouldnt have gone off and f*cked someone else. Even if lets say, one partner was abusive, or didn't give them attention and so they wanted the attention from someone else - to me, it's a daft reason. Break up with the person if they can't give you what you want (except the unable to have sex bit)

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    Thing is some people don't see sex a deeply personal activity. As such they can still care for that person, but not think sex is a deeply personal activity only reserved for one other person.
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    (Original post by DanB1991)
    Thing is some people don't see sex a deeply personal activity. As such they can still care for that person, but not think sex is a deeply personal activity only reserved for one other person.
    Oh. I see. Bit daft a thought really but I guess everyone's different. Thanks for clearing it up Dan.

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