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    Anyone else? I was with a girl the other night and I felt bad that I wasn't getting off to her doing it. The genuine reasons I think are that she was pretty bad at giving the handjobs, which is understandable for most girls. But I kept telling her that I get off when you get off so it's hard for me when it's you giving it all. This is the actual reason, and I don't think she believed me, and only thought I was saying it to make her feel better. We did it three times and I got there every time, the longest taking half an hour. But she couldn't get me off any other way.

    Is there any way I can train myself to be able to get off, or should I try to help her improve if that really is the issue...
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    Some people just struggle to orgasm during them! To be fair, I don't find them overly entertaining.
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    stop watching pawn
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    thats way too much information for TSR mate.... there's a forum called "Askmen" you may wanna look in to
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    (Original post by gijops)
    thats way too much information for TSR mate.... there's a forum called "Askmen" you may wanna look in to
    Tbh I did think it might be but then I skimmed the first page and though differently. :L

    This seemed mild. :L
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    Anyone else? I was with a girl the other night and I felt bad that I wasn't getting off to her doing it. The genuine reasons I think are that she was pretty bad at giving the handjobs, which is understandable for most girls. But I kept telling her that I get off when you get off so it's hard for me when it's you giving it all. This is the actual reason, and I don't think she believed me, and only thought I was saying it to make her feel better. We did it three times and I got there every time, the longest taking half an hour. But she couldn't get me off any other way.

    Is there any way I can train myself to be able to get off, or should I try to help her improve if that really is the issue...
    I'm exactly the same! They don't do anything for me, to the point that I don't care if I get them or not. Even normal sex feels very unstimulating.

    However I think I might know what the problem is:

    I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24 and as such had been death grip sausage wrestling for a while (and I've got good grip strength- my efforts in the gym back me up). On my virginity loss night I thought I'd just blow it really soon, instead I didn't get off at all after a long while of banging.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Is there any way I can train myself to be able to get off, or should I try to help her improve if that really is the issue...
    i've never had a problem getting guys off just tell her how you'd like her to do it "bit harder/faster/higher babe" works XP
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    Don't watch as much porn. Also communicate more. Don't just lie there.
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    (Original post by jam278)
    Don't watch as much porn. Also communicate more. Don't just lie there.
    How can you do much more than just lie there in a blow job? Unless you start skull ****ing, which is considered bad etiquette.

    Truth is, giving oral has a bit of a knack to it, and most inexperienced people won't be good at it. It took me a while to be able to make my girlfriend finish from it. And handjobs just kind of suck, she's never going to have as good a feel for it as you do.
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    (Original post by Mankytoes)
    How can you do much more than just lie there in a blow job? Unless you start skull ****ing, which is considered bad etiquette.

    Truth is, giving oral has a bit of a knack to it, and most inexperienced people won't be good at it. It took me a while to be able to make my girlfriend finish from it. And handjobs just kind of suck, she's never going to have as good a feel for it as you do.
    True with the bj point. Probably tell them to do a bit of both maybe?

    With the hj point it's a problem with grip usually.
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    (Original post by jam278)
    True with the bj point. Probably tell them to do a bit of both maybe?

    With the hj point it's a problem with grip usually.
    Yeah, I think all girls who know what they're doing use their hand as well.

    Yeah, it's a delicate thing, too loose and you don't really get any sensation, too tight and it hurts. And if they pull down too far :eek:
 
 
 
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