Social proof theory and women : is it real?Watch
The phenomenon can be observed in a number of situations of everyday life :
- a male celebrity will be much more desirable to women than a female one to men
- a married man (or even one in a couple) will become more attractive to women
- a guy going to a club or party with friends will look much better to a woman than one who hangs out by himself (so called wingmen/wingwomen )
- having a social media profile full of friends (especially female friends) will increase the attention you get from other women
- even something as trivial as girls looking at boys on the street more when the boys are with their girlfriend
We're not talking about golddiggers, status and wealth here, but an increase in a man's appeal when his ''worth'' seems to be confirmed by others. Women don't consciously do this with hidden motives, the attraction is natural. Do you agree the phenomenon is real? Why is it that it only applies to women?
Another thing that works is when at a party; you should make sure you focus on multiple girls before talking to the one you like the most.
Of course it is. A guy sitting in a corner of a bar by himself one night vs another night where he is seen talking and smiling with a couple of attractive girls. You don't need a psychology degree to know that he will be considered more attractive in the second scenario.
Sure they do. It's about imitating the actions of others, especially when in doubt. Those men are already popular with other women or men and that alone makes them more attractive. But for some mysterious reason men don't need the same conditions to be fulfilled .
Tbh, I've noticed lots of really extroverted girls ending up with guys like that and usually the guy is really successful or good at something
There are far better Psychological theories to explain this. Social proof is about wanting to do the socially acceptable thing in a certain scenario. It's about wanting to fit in and not make a fool of yourself. It has nothing to do with attraction to individuals.
But anyway, why do you think women act like this but men don't?
I remember reading a while ago on some trashy magazine that girls feel more comfortable knowing that a guy has been screen checked by many other women, rather than go for a guy who girls have very little experience with at all, cause the latter is probably a wildcard.
All in moderation, though. I'd say that a guy who claims to have 7 ex girlfriends by age 19 or 20 is a red flag.