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    Hey guys,


    So I am expecting a job offer next week, BUT, I have a serious case of Social Anxiety and am on the verge of turning it down because I am unable to deal with the social commitments that come with it (Christmas Parties. birthday etc.) but it is a job I am really looking forward to.

    What also helps is that is seems like quite a relaxed, fun group of people I am going to be working with. Does anyone have any advice for me? Should I turn it down?

    Cheers!
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    Don't turn it down. I'm also pretty socially inept, but I've managed to settle into work quite well. Give it a chance or you'll regret not having done so!
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    I meant the fact they are so relaxed doesn't help. I am a seriously unhappy person at the best of times and I can find this overwhelming.
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    Definitely don't turn it down!

    Think of your anxiety on a graph. You get in an awkward situation, anxiety goes up. If you run away from the situation then your anxiety will instantly drop (until the next time, when it'll be higher remembering that you couldn't face it before). But if you face the situation then once you realise that it's not so bad, your anxiety will also drop! Not only that, but the next time you're in a similar situation you'll remember you faced and lived through it before, and each time it'll get a little bit easier, and your anxiety won't be so high, until eventually you'll find it's totally manageable in any situation.

    Anxiety is a horrible thing, but you don't have to become a victim of it! Yes, facing your fears is initially scarier than running away, but it's still way better than feeling like you're ruled by a negative emotion.
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    Don't turn it down. This issue put me off applying seriously for a while as the idea of interacting with people terrified me, but it really is okay.
    It takes a while to get used to other people and the other staff trying to get to know you but it really is easier than it seems.
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    Get your GP to prescribe you some propranolol. It doesn't affect your mind but will help you with the physical symptoms of anxiety. And then go for it.
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    Don't turn it down.

    It may be hard the first few days but you'll settle into the job and it'll be second nature. You don't get anxious at home because you're comfortable and relaxed, soon enough, you'll feel that way at work too, trust me, I've been there too
 
 
 
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