Just an update and need to offload my disappointment.
Since I last asked for advice, I felt quite positive about how the friendship was progressing. However, since then I've just been lead to despondency and confusion.
A gave her a call and there was no answer so I left a short msg: how was your holiday, hope you're okay, get back to me if you feel like a chat. I didn't hear anything so after a few days I sent a text saying pretty much the same thing. Nothing.
Okay, I thought, I'll just leave it. So I did.
A fortnight later, I arrived back at my university campus, the town she lives in. I didn't text her and thought I'd wait until her birthday instead, which was yesterday. However, I bumped into on my way back from training last Thursday. She was with a few friends and they were heading for a drink. The mention of her birthday came up and I told her that I'd got her a present, to which she replied, "Oh why?" Anyway, she was absolutely fine with me and invited me along for a drink, which I agreed to.
On our walk there, we chatted and her friends walked ahead. She told me how her friend's ex-boyfriend had been causing godawful trouble with her other friends and how it was getting her down, which I offered some sort of support/understanding. She also mentioned that she was in the town I live in last Saturday, which happened to be the day I live in, but she didn't think I'd be there. I was I told her, and she kind of suggested "Oh, what a shame" as did I. Part of me is confused as to why she didn't text to find out.
Anyway, we went for a drink, and her friend whom I also know from Uni told me that they were all tired after her leaving party the previous night. (She's go on a 6week adventure abroad tomorrow, which she told me about 3 months ago) I felt a little bit put out and saddened that I wasn't invited.
After that we left. I gave her a hug and told her to let me know when is good to give her her present. She said she was more or less free now. I heard nothing so I text her Happy Birthday yesterday and asked when's a good time for me to give her her present, or I could briefly pop round with it if its okay with her. She told me thanks and said she'd have to play it by ear. Nothing all day. Honestly, could she have not spared me five minutes? Fair enough, I thought, maybe she'll get in touch tomorrow.
I was wrong. So I text her today saying I'm in town and have your present on me, it'd be great if you can make it, if not I'll give it to you when you get back. Again, I've heard nothing. The least she could do was reply, surely.
And that's it. Once again I honestly don't know where I stand with her. I don't have any hard feelings towards her and I'll always wish her the best in everything, that won't change. Nevertheless, not only do I feel tired by wasting energy, I feel incredibly disappointed and slightly hurt, especially as I didn't see her and get to give her her present, which I was looking forward to doing. If you've read this far, thanks for reading and listening, I just needed to get it off my chest.
Maybe now I can move on!