My girl friend says she doesn't want to have sex when we meet up in 9 days??

Some of you just don't get it do you ...... I DO understand it, and I DON'T have a problem with it ... I just need some more info on UTIs and how common they could be; how to maybe decrease them too ...

But surely you've got to get past them eventually, what would you do, just stop having sex?

Let me clarify: this is NOT a LDR ... we're both from London, she is simply away in York for a week with some family.

She is heading down to London in a week's time, and I'm leaving to France Wednesday or Thursday.

We're meeting in the South of France on the 29th.

I can imagine how bad they are because I have had one in the past ... but it just seems strange.

Some of you just don't get it do you ...... I DO understand it, and I DON'T have a problem with it ... I just need some more info on UTIs and how common they could be; how to maybe decrease them too ...

Sounds like she is very enthusiastic (though I'd have hoped you'd have made her orgasm more regularly than that, it's really not hard in my experience).

Well we don't have the chance to have sex as often as you might do ... maybe 1 every 2 weeks or so ... mainly because of her UTIs, so I think 3 times is a good start.

UTIs happen most commonly after sexual intercourse ... Every time we have sex she complains about it when I get home.

Blow jobs are great and all ... but I'd like to have sex too you know.

We've had sex many times before, and each time she complains about a UTI afterwards.

There's a whole page on tips to prevent them from the NHS. http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Urinary-tract-infection-adults/Pages/Prevention.aspx They're pretty common though, it sounds like for her not having sex is the way to decrease the chance of them occuring. Unless she goes on antibiotics.

Nothing really too personal actually ... no, she keeps telling me over, and over, and over about how much she loves having sex with me (even when the conversation is completely different) ... she has orgasmed at least 3 times in our 3 month relationship ... so I doubt it has anything to do with her enjoying it or not. Plus she told me "If I didn't get UTIs so often I'd have sex with you every day "

Not setting the bar particularly high, I see.

There are only a few things you can do to reduce the risk of getting them, and they're not that effective really (apart from not having sex!). There's not even scientific proof that cranberry juice works (or there wasn't the last time I read up on this), it's more one of those old remedies that a lot of people swear works.

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Cystitis/Pages/Prevention.aspx She probably gets cystitis. This website suggests that she should go to a doctor if it's recurring - maybe there's something that can be done in the long run?

Painkillers can lessen the discomfort - I found Co-codamol quite effective, but then it made me throw up repeatedly because it's a strong painkiller and not for everyone. What you lose on the swings ...

I totally understand her, I had that problem. Basically having sex can cause UTI's especially if you use a condom because bacteria can move around and end up in the urethra. I got a UTI when I had sex for the first time, to avoid this happening again my doctor told me to use the restroom after having sex asap-apparently peeing flushes bacteria out, and it worked!

You're ill informed ...

http://www.everydayhealth.com/urinary-tract-infections/the-link-between-utis-and-sex.aspx