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    Hi,

    I am new to this forum, and I hope someone here can help me out.

    I tried counseling, but that was a load of crap and it didn't help me much.

    Basically, when I was younger my relatives and I used to be close. We used to do a lot together and went to places together.

    However, as they grew up - they started drinking; smoking; taking drugs; having a boyfriend/girlfriend. They started joining the wrong crowd, and whenever I was invited to parties and stuff they always told me not to tell my parents, yet alone theirs. It's like everything I see or talk about to them has to be a secret.

    Recently, me and my relatives and mates were the target to some verbal abuse by some yobs. When they went to make a report, they never told me. They did it behind my back and then told me after that they reported it.

    With a lot of things, my relatives seemed reserved and don't want to tell me stuff because I come across as a 'snitch'. Something about me that they don't like, but I am the nice type. The one who is honest and has a heart. I don't claim benefits, I don't have a criminal record, oh and I give back to the community.

    I am finding it hard to live with my relatives around because I don't feel trusted. Even on Facebook, I can't see their wall posts or much of their photos.

    I don't want to confront them, what should I do?
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    Hi,

    I am new to this forum, and I hope someone here can help me out.

    I tried counseling, but that was a load of crap and it didn't help me much.

    Basically, when I was younger my relatives and I used to be close. We used to do a lot together and went to places together.

    However, as they grew up - they started drinking; smoking; taking drugs; having a boyfriend/girlfriend. They started joining the wrong crowd, and whenever I was invited to parties and stuff they always told me not to tell my parents, yet alone theirs. It's like everything I see or talk about to them has to be a secret.

    Recently, me and my relatives and mates were the target to some verbal abuse by some yobs. When they went to make a report, they never told me. They did it behind my back and then told me after that they reported it.

    With a lot of things, my relatives seemed reserved and don't want to tell me stuff because I come across as a 'snitch'. Something about me that they don't like, but I am the nice type. The one who is honest and has a heart. I don't claim benefits, I don't have a criminal record, oh and I give back to the community.

    I am finding it hard to live with my relatives around because I don't feel trusted. Even on Facebook, I can't see their wall posts or much of their photos.

    I don't want to confront them, what should I do?
    I think that the relatives that you are hanging out with are the wrong type of crowd and they don't seem like your real friends either. If they don't trust you then that's their *******. I suggest you make other friends, ones that actually appreciate your personality, tell you stuff and want to be around you.

    I sorta feel the same way around my sister in that even though she's away and everything, she hardly tells me what's going on in her life and what she's doing. I don't spy on her on anything, but the other day when I was watching her Facebook, I realized that I couldn't even see her friends! (except for the mutual ones)

    I know you can't change your relatives but you can associate with them less. Find new friends! I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but to me that's definitely better than always having to feel like you're not wanted around.
 
 
 
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