I was at a festival abroad and I got split up from my friends, on the way back to the tent I took a wrong turning, I was really drunk. I was chatting to people as I went when I started talking to these guys, one of them kissed me and took me into their tent, we began to start having sex when one of his friends walked in, they were shouting all sorts of 'wanting a go' and I was uncomfortable so I told him to stop I went to pull my clothes back on ad he pulled me back and carried on, he was much more aggressive after that really hurting me and pulling my hair forcing me to give him oral and once it was over I was told 'if you're not gone in five minutes were coming in and having a go' by his friends
The one friend I told said I should go to the police but I feel like it's my fault, I was really drunk, I didn't resist in the beginning I was openly flirting with him when I stumbled into their camp, and I didn't put up a fight when I told him to stop. I just feel so **** alone and ashamed. Any advice?
I dont know what to do or what to think? Watch
- Thread Starter
- 23-07-2014 13:40
- 24-07-2014 12:35
Thanks for your message. That sounds like a really scary and traumatic thing to go through.
Firstly, it is important that you know that this was not your fault.
Legally, if someone is drunk they are not actually able to consent to sex so having no-consensual sex with someone who is intoxicated is rape. Also, you made it very clear that you were not happy and did not want to continue, he was then aggressive and forced you which is rape. It must have been even worse to have his friends being threatening. Even if you wanted to have sex initially, you have every right to change your mind and that should be respected.
You really need some support in coping with what happened. It is your decision if you want to report to the Police. I think it would be a good idea to have a look at this site - Rape Crisis are a lovely organisation who talk to people every day who have experienced rape. It will not matter that you were drunk, they will support you and give you advice confidentially. They can talk you through what would happen if you did want to report it. There is also info about that on their site.
They have a freephone helpline - 0808 802 9999
12 - 2.30pm
7 - 9.30pm
you can also search on there for local services.
Please contact them and get some support. I know it may feel daunting to talk about it, but it really will help. You do not have to go through this alone.