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domestic violence or not?
well im frightened of my dad. he doesnt hit me or anything, but hes bad tempered. when hes angry, i get frightened of him. he only shouts if he has a reason to shout at me, though its only little things. like last night
there was 2 bowls of melon. 1 for me and 1 for my dad. my dad claimed one plate as his by sticking a fork in but i wasnt thinking and picked up the plate with the fork in and ate the melon. well my dad went berserk and chucked cutlery across the kitchen. when hes angry at me he sometimes slaps me across the head or thighs or kicks me. it hurts. he doesnt hit me but he does that when hes angry. though he has a reason. but the reasons are only little things. im frightened of him. is it domestic violence? is he allowed to kick me and such? its not all the time though
there was 2 bowls of melon. 1 for me and 1 for my dad. my dad claimed one plate as his by sticking a fork in but i wasnt thinking and picked up the plate with the fork in and ate the melon. well my dad went berserk and chucked cutlery across the kitchen. when hes angry at me he sometimes slaps me across the head or thighs or kicks me. it hurts. he doesnt hit me but he does that when hes angry. though he has a reason. but the reasons are only little things. im frightened of him. is it domestic violence? is he allowed to kick me and such? its not all the time though
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how old are you and what sex are you? i think you should certainly try and get some advice maybe from NSPCC how ever patronising and self-defeating it must sound, but they'd be able to give good advice. or if you want to take it further, call the police as it's certainly domestic violence and it could escalate. it's certainly something you shouldn't have to deal with.
im a 16yr old girl
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Try speak to the guy. Explain how you feel and see what he says.
DON'T LISTEN to people who say call the Police or NSPCC, that's a last resort.
You need to speak to him.
DON'T LISTEN to people who say call the Police or NSPCC, that's a last resort.
You need to speak to him.
this is ludicrous advice. would it be a last resort if he had slapped her over the face so hard she was unconcious?
its not all the time. but when he gets angry, im terrified, he just kicks me when he has a reason to do so. i do silly things that anger him though not on purpose.
he never punches though. sometimes grabs my clothing and just pushes me out of the room when ive done something to anger him
he wont!! hes only like this if hes angry with me if ive done something wrong. though not on purpose. im only frightened of him when hes angry
how often does he get this angry?
once or twice a week. it varies each week though. sometimes he goes for long periods with no anger, other times its for a few days then he calms down
look. dont listen to these people who tell you to phone such and such and report him to whoever etc. At the end of the day he is your dad, hes brought you up well i presume, and you say he only does this when you make him mad, well sounds obvious but try saying your sorry you took his melon and he might not get so upset. If his temper tantrums get worse, i.e. you start getting bruises or he really hurts you THEN there is the option of calling childline, or talking with a friend or relative. Id stay on his good side for a while, and let us know how it goes 
but its my fault. i do things which get him angry and annoys him but not a purpose
My Dad is like this as well - I can't get on with him because of it, I find it hard to pretend to feel at ease with him because I feel that at any second he might switch and become violent.
The main problem is there not being any consistency, perhaps this is the same with your Dad? In the sense that it is impossible to understand the difference between what is acceptable and what will lead to an "outburst".
Things that shouldn't make him angry make him angry - this seems the same as your Dad, twice a week is a lot more frequently than what happens in our house tho.
I suppose this is because everyone is surpressing their opinions and emotions to avoid his unreasonable reactions.
I hate it.
The main problem is there not being any consistency, perhaps this is the same with your Dad? In the sense that it is impossible to understand the difference between what is acceptable and what will lead to an "outburst".
Things that shouldn't make him angry make him angry - this seems the same as your Dad, twice a week is a lot more frequently than what happens in our house tho.
I suppose this is because everyone is surpressing their opinions and emotions to avoid his unreasonable reactions.
I hate it.
Ever thought he might be depressed/stressed or have anger management problems? Don't report him to anyone. 
Just sit there and talk to him - would that make him angry? Also, it may well be that you think it's your fault... but it's probably his fault. I wouldn't get annoyed if someone ate my piece of melon, especially not if there was another one there. But I have a feeling it might be a symptom of something more serious, not just that he's a ******.
Just sit there and talk to him - would that make him angry? Also, it may well be that you think it's your fault... but it's probably his fault. I wouldn't get annoyed if someone ate my piece of melon, especially not if there was another one there. But I have a feeling it might be a symptom of something more serious, not just that he's a ******.Related discussions
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